Post divorce, have you been unable to provide a home for your young adult children?

[SoSadSoSadSoSad]

I mean 18-22 years old when they might be at university and not yet independent?

I will have to move in with my dad I think, when my 16 year old leaves school at 18. I just can’t continue affording where I live now.

He will have to stay with his dad in the university holidays. He’s not fond of his dad who is a volatile bully but I don’t really have a choice for him. I can’t keep paying rent on an expensive house just for the kids’ holidays.

My 13 year old has already decided to live with his dad because his dad is offering private school and he can’t stand me anyway.

My 19 year old is leaving university after one year as she hates it, can’t see the value for money and she wants to live with me whilst she sorts herself out. What she will do after two years, I don’t know.

It is all so tricky and I am so disappointed with myself for not being able to provide more especially as my Dcs start to launch themselves into the real world. I feel like such a loser.

I guess I should be grateful my ex can provide space for them if they need it.

i guess yet more gaps will be created in my relationship with my DCs because I can’t help them the way they will need.

They will survive. Honestly.

My parents moved abroad when I was 18. I found a place to live and it taught me great independence. I didn't resent my parents and I've got a great relationship with them, even now. Many years later.

Apply for every cent you're entitled to.

Do it today.

Stop wallowing in shame. You're shooting yourself in the foot.