AIBU - husband drinking

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had a lovely day out. Out our child down to bed and plan was to get a take away and chill together. He popped out to the pub for a couple and was to get the take away en route home except he didn’t come home…. Told me to sort my own food in the end as had met some people… AIBU to feel pissed off and disrespected.

FYI I have no issue with a few drinks or socialising etc. I prefer when it’s planned so hangovers can be accounted for etc… this was not the case.

Leave a pile of blankets on the door step, tell him to make himself comfy in the car as you feel like having the place to yourself for the night

Apart from the disrespectful change of plan, I hope he wasn't driving.
As this was presumably yesterday, Saturday evening, what happened?

I'm not surprised you feel disrespected! But was this a one off? Did he suddenly meet people he hadn't seen for ages and then stayed for longer than planned? Or is this a regular thing? I'd still be pissed off as a one off, but I'd forgive it. If it's longer term and a behavioural pattern (and I suspect it is) then I'd be making plans to get my life back without him in it. The reason I suspect it's a pattern not a one-off is that you say he popped to the pub for couple of drinks on the way to get a takeaway - who does that?! Unless they have a drink problem it would be pretty unusual.

He decompresses with a few drinks. Which I’m ok with he unwinds with a couple in the pub once or twice a week.

its not a once off. But it’s by no means a super regular occurrence.

no drink driving. Met people in his industry so it was a networking angle rather than not seeing friends etc.

apparently he’s taken on board why I’m upset..