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AIBU to question why assisted dying laws require self-administration?

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Holdinguphalfthesky · 22/03/2026 08:14

I have always been broadly in favour of assisted dying, based on the argument that we put our pets to sleep when they lose their joy and dignity, that people should have absolute authority and autonomy over their lives and bodies, and that many illnesses make dying an awful, painful experience.

However, with recent wider political debate about the concept, I have started to wonder why there is such emphasis on the person being able to administer the fatal medication themselves? Surely that leaves the patient more likely to suffer manipulation and guilt tripping, because they’re doing it themselves and still have consciousness and rationality; whereas if the decision were to be made by NoK alongside a couple of doctors once the person is in so much pain or has lost consciousness it would be more safeguarded. And potentially easier for all concerned.

The question is informed by my experience caring for a parent and for a friend, both of whom died from cancer. I have also held a pet while they passed from a pts injection. Interested to hear others’ thoughts on why the legislation debated insists on making it possible only for people to self-administer, potentially doing it before they are ready to stop living.

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IrregularMo0n · 22/03/2026 14:01

Lifewontbethesame · 22/03/2026 13:00

Thank you. Worst few days of my life.
I suppose the rationale is fluids would just prolong the dying process.
End of life palliative care is basically people starving/dehydrating to death which is why I am in favour of helping things along with a little Injection of pentobarbital. And yes I know this is a different scenario to planned euthanasia, but once you're brain dead with no chance of recovery these prolonged deaths are just torture of the families, and I didn't get to be with my mum at the end as I'd gone home for a couple of hours sleep.

Surely there is a way to legislate that permits what you say, surely a better alternative than such painful suffering. I only dipped in briefly to this thread but I was struck by your post and will need to research further. I am very very wary of assisted dying as I believe it would be an inevitable horribly slippery slope. But your families situation is equally unacceptable.

Nat6999 · 22/03/2026 21:15

Why would it be any different to doctors administering drugs like morphine to ease patients on their way? When my Nan was dying her GP came & gave her a hefty dose of morphine saying it wouldn't be many more hours, she passed about 4 hours later.

Pistachiocake · 22/03/2026 21:27

Agree completely. Suicide was decriminalised a long time ago. The same is now happening with abortion. Yes, it is true that some women are pressured into abortion, and some people might be pushed into ending their life, but that does not mean that abortion shouldn't be allowed because most of us would agree with bodily autonomy-so why are we not allowed a choice regarding the end of our own lives?

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