What age should children stop screaming all the time - WFH

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WFH 6-7 times a fortnight. Never had a hybrid job before.

Yesterday afternoon after school there were 3 girls wearing academy uniform - year 7 onwards running around and screaming.

Plus a couple of families who have around 6 kids between them spend all the school holidays if it’s dry riding bikes outside my home screaming. I say the oldest child in that group is 9.

How do ask the children not to scream all the time?

I wear a headset for telephone calls and Teams. I don’t want to wear it all the time.

Travelling to the office is 18 miles away each way and on days I don’t have an allocated parking space. Let’s just say there are 100 more staff on the books, than parking bays. Obviously about half the staff walk, use PT or cycle and probably about at most 70% of staff are working in the office. it’s £7.50 to park. Travelling on public transport is £12 each day and need to leave home an hour earlier and get home an hour later compared to driving.

‘Edit their noises’ - in other words stop making noises which indicate they are in mortal danger when they are just pissing about

Shit parenting
mine never screamed on the odd occasion they got carried away they were sent inside

Unless they’re being murdered, or their house is burning down, there is absolutely no excuse for screaming children. I never allowed my own DC to do that and I cannot understand why people generally are so indulgent of it and say ‘it’s normal’. No it’s not. It’s fucking horrible and totally unnecessary.

I don’t know what you do op. YANBU but nobody gives a shit about consideration for others these days it seems.

Exactly. We were always taught that you only screamed to alert an adult you were in real danger

The bottom line is you choose to WFH up to seven out of ten days per fortnight . That is a lot.

I ask again, because no-one has answered, what about people who are not wfh but for whatever reason are in their homes fourteen days per fortnight? Retired, maternity leave, nightworkers, recovering from illness.... and want to enjoy their gardens, read, listen to music, or just want to be quiet in their own homes. Must they wear headphones or go out to a cafe or library to get some peace and quiet? (And libraries aren't particularly quiet these days.)

I don't work from home but i am at home during the day should i have to put up with children screaming at the top of their lungs constantly ? There is no need for a child to scream. They can laugh, sing etc but there is no need to scream. At what age do we tell children not to, 4 , 8, 13 or 18 ?

And there is a posh secondary school near our office and we have to deal with screaming teens two or three times a week - that is what happens when they are allowed to do this

Absolutely. Mine were told not to scream. If they did, I made them come in. Our neighbours did the same with theirs. We simply did what our parents did. There is no way my DM would have tolerated shrieking/screaming.

DC generally learn quickly when parents actually do some parenting.

My child has never screamed and no screaming children where I live. Bit of giggling and occasional shouting but that’s all.

Do live in some kind of inner city ghetto? The birds are noisier here than children and I live right by a village school.

What happens? Is she just sat there and then randomly screams? Or does she scream with laughter? I cant visualise this at all! And surely her friends tell her to shut up?!

Wow. “Inner city ghetto”?! Charming.Good for you in your nice little village life.

Do you work with your windows open? With decent double glazing the sound of children playing outside is unlikely to be actually loud enough to distract from work, but if your home environment isn't conducive to working then you should just go into the office. Is there somewhere that you can park for free anywhere within a 15 minute walk of the office? At a previous workplace where allocated parking was for senior management only, the free onstreet parking was all 4hr maximum with no return within an hour so most people would park for the morning and at lunch break would go back to their car and move it to a different nearby street (often checking with eachother where they are parked and hoping to so a straight swap if they are lucky)

I don’t think those squealing shrieking noises that seem to pass these days are ever really acceptable.

Toddlers maybe.

But pps are right its a residential are and y a work place

I'm afraid there isn't too much you can do about it. You either have to ask them to quieten down or find ways of blocking it out. I've never generally asked kids to stop screaming apart from one occasion. It was about 9pm and kids were running up and down screaming. Each time they did they woke up DD who was tiny and took forever to settle. I felt 9pm was reasonable to ask tweens not to scream. I fully WFH during the day and it's actually people stopping right outside our house having loud conversations whilst their dogs bark at each other. We live in a quiet village and I can zone out deliveries / workmen / people on phones but dogs barking at each other whilst being ignored by their owners goes through me.

What are you talking about?

Why would children be more likely to make screaming noises in a city?

I live in a city and mine have never been screamers either.

It does make you wonder!

Going by my experiences at school athletics events and at my local leisure centre, the girls scream well into secondary school age. Their parents really need to tell them to stop it. I didn't scream, I have no idea why so many girls do it now.

I don't think it matters whether you are trying to work or not. I don't want kids screaming outside regardless of what I am doing at home, whether it's work, housework, or trying to read a book.

As @LiviaDrusillaAugusta said it's easy to spot the people on here who allow their children to constantly scream.

Children absolutely SHOULD 'edit out' shrill screaming and screeching. I find it unfathomable that anyone thinks it's acceptable.

Yes exactly! Why the F should people have to be using 'noise cancelling headphones,' in their own home or garden because some people lack parenting skills and have no control over their children?

We live on a cul-de-sac and when DC were little there were children the same age living at all five houses. Only once did I hear screaming, that high pitched, 100 decibel noise that makes your teeth hurt, the parent, my neighbour, nipped that right in the bud.

Some people, irrespective of age, are noisy. Nothing you can do to stop them unless it’s early in the morning or late at night.

I remember once having lunch at a pub. We were so glad when the noisy family with lots of children left. Tbey were replaced by a much noisier group of adults .

I dont think theres anything wrong with children shrieking and yelling if they are playing in an outside space within reasonable hours (8am to 7pm approx). Obviously late at night, early in the morning not OK and if you have some sort of special circumstances (shift worker, trying to get a baby to nap etc) then its reasonable to request they keep it down or move further away from your window. But in general kids should be allowed to play.

Speaking as a long term remote worker, you don't get to decide other people should adjust their behaviour so you don't have to wear a headset. The area is residential more than it's a place of work. Which doesn't mean that some kids noise isn't inherently unreasonable, but it's not unreasonable because you've chosen to work in your home.

what’s the need for shrieking and screaming not everyone wants to hear your kids
nothing wrong with teaching kids to be considerate of others

We have screamers living in the house behind us , they are mid teens now and still doing it , I think it’s a parenting issue . I’ve nothing against kids playing and making noise but I do think that you should show an element of consideration for other people who also want to enjoy their property .