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I would like to live in Brighton and Hove

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0hIdoliketobebesidetheseaside · 21/03/2026 11:01

Visited last weekend and I really think it’s the place for us. But I’m not sure we can afford it, is there anywhere like it?
Things we loved

beautiful shops in the lanes, seaside, so much to do, arts, live music etc. People seem friendlier than in a lot of places. South Downs for walks

But we have only £250000 and thinking of having a baby soon

any solutions or alternatives?

OP posts:
Girasoli · 22/03/2026 16:48

I'm surprised @ACynicalDad we are looking round secondary schools now and there are 4/5 I would send DS1 to (getting in another problem).

Efacsen · 22/03/2026 17:00

PurpleFlower1983 · 22/03/2026 08:00

I wonder why. It’s always something that has baffled me since I started visiting 25 years ago.

Brighton & Hove are bang on average for 'diversity' - like most towns in the UK it's more than 85% white - people from ethnic minority groups live in big cities

PurpleFlower1983 · 22/03/2026 20:02

Efacsen · 22/03/2026 17:00

Brighton & Hove are bang on average for 'diversity' - like most towns in the UK it's more than 85% white - people from ethnic minority groups live in big cities

Yes, I just expected it not to be. Don’t know why!

TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 23/03/2026 18:03

Bigearringsbigsmile · 21/03/2026 11:40

Where in the north? I also live in the north and you certainly wouldn't get all that for that price here? Nowhere near!

County Durham

swimsong · 24/03/2026 04:54

0hIdoliketobebesidetheseaside · 21/03/2026 11:08

We are in the midlands. We can get jobs in our field anywhere. I have not been to Worthing but I associate it with old people which is kind of the opposite of Brighton and Hove

This was way back in the 80s so it might be different now. A comedian at the Zap Club in Brighton said "My young son asked me what the difference between life a death is? I replied: Well, remember when we used to live in Hove?" Got a huge laugh.

(He was followed by a guy who sang Wild Thing by The Triggs - but substituted Worthing for Wild Thing in the lyrics).

Yuja · 24/03/2026 05:59

We lived in Brighton for years and moved out when the kids were small. It’s very expensive and the secondary schools are not amazing - there are a lot nicer places that are only 10-15 mins away by train

Cosimarocks · 24/03/2026 12:57

Brighton and Hove is a complex beast. Like many cities. Though Brighton, I think, really shows the extremes. I have friends in Hove with a family and they absolutely love it. There is a really community feel in some parts, some good independent shops and restaurants, different cultures; it’s arty and bohemian, it has music and good drinking places, and a beach and life. But it also has drugs and homelessness and crime. The beach is only accessed by crossing what is pretty much a major dual carriage way. It has independent shops but the high street is grim and struggling. It has some gorgeous period buildings, but so much of Brighton is a hideous concrete 1960s disaster. It’s beautiful in parts, and other bits are rubbish strewn and grim. Street parking is a nightmare and the multistorey car parks stink of piss and feel scary. Walk along the beach in the evening and it feels like Hollywood ( though good), with people skating and others making music and filled with vibrancy and excitement. But it’s filled with tourists and stag and hen dos too. It has desperate problems and poverty and yet has a strong, wonderfully liberal and caring community. It’s surrounded by glorious countryside and beautiful villages, but those towns and villages are filled with political divide. It’s on the commuter belt for London and so is a good opportunity for work and yet hideously expensive. The houses around Hove can be lovely, but it’s also got a slightly down at heel suburban feel of some of the less interesting parts of London like Wembley. It feels like a bubble and yet is very much symbolic of the rest of the UK at the moment. It’s London on sea in many ways.

I think to some the appeal lies in the mix. In the grim and concrete next to sea and Georgian gorgeousness. Personally, I wouldn’t want to live there. If I wanted such ugliness and squalor next to such beauty and fun and art and music, then I’d just go back to London. Or go somewhere else with a bit less traffic and concrete.

The mix thing can be good. Certainly we should celebrate different cultures and people. BUT, as someone who grew up in the poor East End of London and went to a rough school there, filled with poverty and immigrants who had just arrived from desperate places, I find that sort of middle-class, ‘it’s so cool being part of such a mixed area’, slightly condescending. I went to a cool art university, in a very rough art of London that was starting to attract an influx of well-educated middle classes, with family funded deposits and other family support, drawn (really) by the dirt cheap property. I remember our introductory lecture spoke of the ‘wonderful multicultural area, full of character and interest’, and the lecturer then went on to tell us that she had chosen to live in a tower block in the area to ‘really experience the vibrancy of the area’. It’s called poverty tourism and it’s awful. Now I don’t think every middle class professional in Brighton is like that, but there is certainly an element. You cannot experience something if you don’t live it. If you can close your door on it or drive off to the hills whenever you choose or hop on a train back to mummy and daddy in the Cotswolds. Eyes down and ignore the problems. Same with places like Margate in Kent. A small area filled with independent shops and galleries, but go 30 seconds down the road to Boots and the methadone queue is out the door. The trouble with areas that are gentrifying is that they don’t help anyone but those who can afford it, they just push the poor into smaller areas with fewer opportunities.

Brighton is great. But its also awful. In terms of your question though, your budget will get you sod all and it certainly won’t enable the rather lovely dream you have of living there. For one, Brighton and Hove is massive, and if you were able to find somewhere there it wouldn’t be anywhere near the things you loved about the place when you visited.

Gini87 · 24/03/2026 13:29

0hIdoliketobebesidetheseaside · 21/03/2026 11:09

We would be hoping for a garden or at least a small outside space

For £250k on Brighton and Hove that would be nigh on impossible. We live over in Seaford and Brighton accessible by bus or train. Sadly, it’s not a very affordable place to live and there are also some not so great areas like Whitehawk and Moulsecoomb.

RosesAndHellebores · 24/03/2026 13:46

I agree 100% with @Cosimarocks whose comments about Margate deeply resonate.

LibertyLily · 24/03/2026 13:56

I've visited Brighton and Hove frequently since I was a small child in the mid/late 1970s. Being arty and bohemian, I always found it a great, inspirational place to visit but even as a student/early 20s I never fancied living there (we were further along the coast, in Southsea, Hampshire).

DS went to Sussex uni and after a few years living in London post graduation, moved back to Brighton with his partner. They initially bought a flat in Kemp Town then, after starting a family (2 young DC now), bought a three bed house to the north of the city. We visit frequently (from West Sussex) and whilst there are loads of lovely houses/areas/things to do, I'm more convinced than ever I'd not want to live there!

DS's partner works in Brighton city centre and loves living somewhere she can walk to work. DS - who loved Brighton life as a student - absolutely hates it and deeply regrets buying there (although they've done ok as their house is now close to 500k). It's very dirty, druggy and run down in parts (same as most cities, obvs) and their experience of the schools (DC1 is 5) isn't great.

He can't wait to sell up and move to one of the surrounding towns or even a South Downs village which - assuming he can persuade his partner - they'll do before DC1 reaches secondary. They have friends in Seaford who love it there. Others in St Leonard's hated it and moved west to Southbourne (Bournemouth). Family in Eastbourne Old Town and Littlehampton outskirts have good things to say - although Littlehampton Town centre is dire and there are loads of DFLs moving in/buying second homes. There are so many better places to live/visit in the area than Brighton, imo, but I can see the attraction for someone who hasn't spent a lot of time there.

Greenwitchart · 24/03/2026 14:04

OP If you want somewhere arty by the sea in the Southeast look at some of the Kent towns like Folkestone, Margate, Ramsgate, Broadstairs & Deal. Cheaper than Brighton and they have direct trains to London if needed.

Hastings/St Leonard are also cheaper than Brighton.

Also if you want to move to a seaside town you first need to spend time there in the winter to make sure you can still enjoy it when it is quiet and windy :).

Peonies12 · 24/03/2026 14:06

£250k will barely get you anything there. You’d need to look at somewhwre along the coast like Worthing or Eastbourne you could get a big flat there. We live near Brighton and visit regularly but I wouldn’t want to live there, it’s deteriorated over the years. And I’d be careful to make an impulse decision after 1 visit

Hotcrossed · 24/03/2026 17:41

i love how you have described Brighton @Cosimarocks
spot on

3oldladiesstuckinalavatory · 24/03/2026 18:21

There's a reason Brighton and Hove is an expensive place to live - it's ace. Sorry, everyone who doesn't live here, but it is very popular for a reason. If you like the vibe then look at places that you can easily get to on the bus and then you can easily travel down for gigs, sunsets, whatever you like. Crawley, Burgess Hill, Haywards Heath are landlocked, but cheaper and just up the road, and if you want a beach, try Worthing (great cinema, pier, beach bars, leisure centre) which is beachy and just down the road, Lancing (great beach bar, but a bit further), or maybe Peaceahaven or Seaford on the other side of the coast.

Goldenbear · 25/03/2026 14:54

Cosimarocks · 24/03/2026 12:57

Brighton and Hove is a complex beast. Like many cities. Though Brighton, I think, really shows the extremes. I have friends in Hove with a family and they absolutely love it. There is a really community feel in some parts, some good independent shops and restaurants, different cultures; it’s arty and bohemian, it has music and good drinking places, and a beach and life. But it also has drugs and homelessness and crime. The beach is only accessed by crossing what is pretty much a major dual carriage way. It has independent shops but the high street is grim and struggling. It has some gorgeous period buildings, but so much of Brighton is a hideous concrete 1960s disaster. It’s beautiful in parts, and other bits are rubbish strewn and grim. Street parking is a nightmare and the multistorey car parks stink of piss and feel scary. Walk along the beach in the evening and it feels like Hollywood ( though good), with people skating and others making music and filled with vibrancy and excitement. But it’s filled with tourists and stag and hen dos too. It has desperate problems and poverty and yet has a strong, wonderfully liberal and caring community. It’s surrounded by glorious countryside and beautiful villages, but those towns and villages are filled with political divide. It’s on the commuter belt for London and so is a good opportunity for work and yet hideously expensive. The houses around Hove can be lovely, but it’s also got a slightly down at heel suburban feel of some of the less interesting parts of London like Wembley. It feels like a bubble and yet is very much symbolic of the rest of the UK at the moment. It’s London on sea in many ways.

I think to some the appeal lies in the mix. In the grim and concrete next to sea and Georgian gorgeousness. Personally, I wouldn’t want to live there. If I wanted such ugliness and squalor next to such beauty and fun and art and music, then I’d just go back to London. Or go somewhere else with a bit less traffic and concrete.

The mix thing can be good. Certainly we should celebrate different cultures and people. BUT, as someone who grew up in the poor East End of London and went to a rough school there, filled with poverty and immigrants who had just arrived from desperate places, I find that sort of middle-class, ‘it’s so cool being part of such a mixed area’, slightly condescending. I went to a cool art university, in a very rough art of London that was starting to attract an influx of well-educated middle classes, with family funded deposits and other family support, drawn (really) by the dirt cheap property. I remember our introductory lecture spoke of the ‘wonderful multicultural area, full of character and interest’, and the lecturer then went on to tell us that she had chosen to live in a tower block in the area to ‘really experience the vibrancy of the area’. It’s called poverty tourism and it’s awful. Now I don’t think every middle class professional in Brighton is like that, but there is certainly an element. You cannot experience something if you don’t live it. If you can close your door on it or drive off to the hills whenever you choose or hop on a train back to mummy and daddy in the Cotswolds. Eyes down and ignore the problems. Same with places like Margate in Kent. A small area filled with independent shops and galleries, but go 30 seconds down the road to Boots and the methadone queue is out the door. The trouble with areas that are gentrifying is that they don’t help anyone but those who can afford it, they just push the poor into smaller areas with fewer opportunities.

Brighton is great. But its also awful. In terms of your question though, your budget will get you sod all and it certainly won’t enable the rather lovely dream you have of living there. For one, Brighton and Hove is massive, and if you were able to find somewhere there it wouldn’t be anywhere near the things you loved about the place when you visited.

Brighton is not very diverse at all, I wouldn't say it is multicultural like London, it just isn't. Equally, Hove has some really run down parts- remnants of a run-down seaside town but Hove isn't Brighton and often people who have moved here fairly recently don't know of any other parts. The most expensive homes are inland and in North Brighton. Unfortunately, far from multicultural!

Goldenbear · 25/03/2026 14:57

Goldenbear · 25/03/2026 14:54

Brighton is not very diverse at all, I wouldn't say it is multicultural like London, it just isn't. Equally, Hove has some really run down parts- remnants of a run-down seaside town but Hove isn't Brighton and often people who have moved here fairly recently don't know of any other parts. The most expensive homes are inland and in North Brighton. Unfortunately, far from multicultural!

As someone who grew up in West and South London, I don't think it is even as multicultural as 1990s/00s London.

Overitallnow · 25/03/2026 14:57

Have you watched Night Coppers on Channel 4?

Tonissister · 25/03/2026 14:59

I just Googled what you can get in Brighton & Hove for that money. There are over 100 2-bed flats on offer - some in the centre, some nic eperiod conversions or recently done up. I reckon you could buy somewhere that would work for a few years even if you have a baby. By which time you might want to move somewhere leafier and quieter.

MissDiag · 25/03/2026 15:15

OP could you rent for a bit? That would give you time to suss out the area and find out which place you might want to live in.

I am from London and love my Brighton mini breaks. But I accept that living there is very different from going on holiday.

Starlight1979 · 25/03/2026 15:22

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 21/03/2026 11:10

Frigging hell! That's bloody awful!

WalkDontWalk · 25/03/2026 15:27

TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 21/03/2026 11:17

I will never understand why people would relocate to somewhere like Brighton when there are so many beautiful places in the North for a fraction of the price. I live in a 4 bed detached with nice garden, double driveway, in a cul de sac in a very nice area and it's worth around £220k. I'd say look elsewhere.

..er....because they like it?

I mean, they might like somewhere in the North. But right now, they like Brighton. What should they do, visit every town everywhere in case they happen across somewhere that they like as much but that's cheaper?

Basquervill · 25/03/2026 15:48

@Cosimarocks would it be rude to ask where you live? If so, feel free to ignore. I ask because you seem thoughtful and astute and I’m looking at locations post London, for me, and curious as to your choice.

Basquervill · 25/03/2026 15:49

Goldenbear · 25/03/2026 14:57

As someone who grew up in West and South London, I don't think it is even as multicultural as 1990s/00s London.

This is so true. Lots of people don’t know London though, and are imagining Brighton to be similar, because it’s busy!

PacificState · 25/03/2026 15:52

I agree you either love Brighton or you don’t. If you do (I do), you want to live somewhere reasonably central, I think. I moved out to Moulsecoomb when I had my kids and although it’s only about two miles from the centre, it might as well have been 20 miles away - totally different vibe (although not scary or bad, just boring and a bit drab). We kept waiting for it to gentrify, and it never did 😂 We had friends who had a house in Saltdean - beautiful sea views up on a hill, actually a really nice, spacious 1960s house. But again, sea view aside it was really, really suburban and boring. You might as well have been in Woking. Brighton just becomes a place you visit, not a place you’re actually living in.

In your shoes - especially without kids — I’d get as close to the centre as is possible with your budget, rather than a two-bed miles away. I think this is one of those situations where location trumps space. Nowhere outside central/seafront Brighton is quite the same. The beach means you don’t really need a garden anyway.

FasterMichelin · 25/03/2026 16:00

0hIdoliketobebesidetheseaside · 21/03/2026 11:09

We would be hoping for a garden or at least a small outside space

I don’t think you have the budget for Brighton or Hove. It’s very expensive and £250k won’t get you much anywhere in the South East, definitely not a house. If you get a flat, you’ll need to factor in service charges. And if you’re looking to have children soon, will you realistically be able to buy a bigger house in a few years in the same area?