Aibu to think that if dp and I have had multiple conversations about issues in the relationship and he says things like he’s going to do better but never actually does then he actually just doesn’t care he’s upsetting me. We had a full blown argument on Sunday both took time out for a few hours then sat down had a conversation that I feel we’ve had so many times before and nothings changed at all. One issue is money he seems to think as soon as it goes into the bank he needs to piss it away and once he’s blew through what’s in his account he thinks I’m a millionaire and what’s in my account is up to piss away. We have a joint account that we put equal money in for bills that he’s not got the password for because he’d spend the money in it. Another issue is I can’t get his attention most of the time because he’s got his head stuck in his phone Iv literally had to shout his name at times to get him to answer a simple question. My biggest problem right now is after having baby 11 weeks ago Iv no sex drive at all and Iv explained to him that I’m exhausted with baby I don’t feel like myself at all and I’m stressed out so sex is not on my mind at all but he just keeps harping on about it, I don’t have 5 minutes for myself and in his mind once lo is asleep I should be up for it.
I honestly think at times he just doesn’t give two fucks about how I’m feeling. I suffered pnd after my second child years ago and really am doing my best to not go through that again because my partner at the time was an abusive prick and just made me feel horrible. Right now it feels like all my partner sees me as is a bank machine or a sex toy. He’s said he feels as if I’m pushing him away but it’s not like he’s doing much to help the situation. Sometimes I feel like just telling him leave and find someone else because I shouldn’t feel so disrespected.