She ate all the biscuits

[Imissmusic]

I got a pack of chocolate chip cookies for today after dinner for everyone to have a few-Dd has a balanced diet but we don’t have a dessert or biscuits, crisps etc every night or in the house that often-more on weekends or if we bake something.
I hid the rest of the biscuits away for another day.
I went to have a shower, when Dd came up to bed, she told me she looked everywhere for them, found them and ate them.

Would you be cross? She’s 7

Well, I guess, potentially, a number of things.

Impulse control issues, attention seeking, comfort eating, sensory-seeking behaviour, issues with hormones that signal fullness. ADHD can cause over-eating for stimulation.

I wouldn't like to pick one, but I just think seeking out food outside mealtimes then eating to the point of nausea seems worth investigating. I wouldn't tell her off until you have had her checked out.

So what are your thoughts @Imissmusic?

Are you worried for her health or you are concerned that her lack of control (albeit your girl is only 7, after all) will spiral and eat all the pies too?
😛

YABU. Making certain foods off limits and strictly controlled led to eating disorders in me and my sister.

When we were kids and had guests our mother would go nuts at how we acted like ravening wolves over anything "naice" and embarrassed her. But it was because we were never allowed anything like that normally. So yes would eat it all if we could.

My kids have had no restrictions and as a result the only one who is overweight is big because she has a medical condition and ironically eats the best out of all of them that have left home. The others can all take or leave junk. My sister will have chocolate/biscuits in the house all the time and I never ever buy it. She is a recovering over eater and I am a recovering anorexic.

As someone who wasn’t allowed sugar by my parents I’d gorge when i got the opportunity. Normalise biscuits OP. Banning them does far more harm than good!

Am sorry you and your sister reacted to your mum's way and I hope you'll both be well going forward.
But the OP hasn't restricted any of these foods, if you can manage to read some further posts she explains that her little one has treats out of the house too.

I have a full kitchen cupboard and drawer filled with mini chocolate bars, biscuits little cakes etc, then crisps in the bottom cupboard. I fill it once a week (and I mean fully fill it). My 2 help themselves whenever they fancy. Surprisingly the once a week turned into every 10 days, then 14 etc. They also have yoghurts in the fridge and lollies in the freezer. Knowing they can have them whenever stopped them going mad on them. Don’t get me wrong, if a new treat appeared there, they wouldn’t last 2 mins!!! But after a few weeks of them being bought, they don’t go as quick. Mine are 16 and 6. They also get desserts and other treats as well. Being more relaxed about it means they feel like they are in “control” of eating them. So they don’t eat them as fast. Maybe buy her a pack of biscuits on a Monday and tell her they are just for her, nobody else but when they are gone they are gone until next week. Plus, if she eats them all in one go and makes herself sick, she won’t do it again!!! (As both my children have discovered!!)

Or she's 7 and still growing up and learning?

It was!! 😂 So I put some in a bowl for her and Dh to share whilst watching tv, put the rest of the packet away (yes out of sight) she ate the rest of the packet. No idea how much she shared with Dh, he likely got a couple

Yes! This is exactly it

So if he was around - yet he still didn’t think to tell her no more cookies 🤔 not blaming you by the way! Just to make clear

Possibly. But neither me nor my siblings nor my dc have gone down that particular route of learning, so I guess to me it seems not a usual rite of passage.

It could well be for some, but I'm just suggesting op keep alert to issues and doesn't just treat it as a disciplinary thing.

She has so much attention
He was most likely on the loo-but that’s another story!

@sploshsplash 100%

Read the book chocolate cake by Michael Rosen, it’s great!! Maybe she has prada Willy or something else going on? How many was in the pack?

At 7 years old she’s old enough to know it’s greedy to finish the whole pack and not fair on the rest of the family. I really don’t understand why people are minimising her behavior with the ‘naughty little scamp’ attitude.

It was very much the way I grew up with 3 big brothers.
See, that's just it, we are all different.

Yeah, keeping alert 100% makes sense but I don't think to label anything just yet does.

Agree. Of all of my peers when I was a child, my children and all their peers, the only one I know who would do this has serious issues with impulse control (he once took food out of my hand). He almost certainly has a behavioural disorder. He is globally a very challenging child - not just with food. Screens are also very problematic in particular.

@Imissmusic, is your DD only like this around food?

Yes, I often say have some fruit, yoghurt, cheese…her dinner was ready but she was asking for the biscuits before she’d eaten it and just keen to get dinner done and get them

’pack of biscuits’ how many were there? Surely just a few left ??

aha the truth will out, IT WAS HIM wot did it!!! 😉

7 year old's make mistakes, 7 year olds are young, 7 year olds don't think like adults, 7 year olds are only starting to forward think their actions and consequences.

They indeed can be naughty little scamps. They just need to keep learning that it's not acceptable to take things without asking and they will get there.

That’s the way you grew up? You would take things out of a cupboard that had been put away and just eat them all for yourself age 7??? My mum would kill me 😆 not because it’s biscuits but because I’d taken without asking and I’d eaten more than my share. The family is a collective!

I’m probably being too worried right 😁

I wouldn’t be annoyed about her scoffing the biscuits, it’s hardly the end of the world, but I’d be annoyed at her hunting them down and then coming to tell you she managed to find and eat them all as some sort of “gotcha!” move.

Probably the time to remind her she needs to consider the rest of the family.

She told me at bedtime because she knows she shouldn’t have done it really, I don’t believe seeking attention, she’s just not like that