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AIBU to think a foetus is alive before birth?

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Mmmchocolatebuttons · 19/03/2026 16:39

I had a discussion with someone, who believes that a foetus is not alive, until the point they are born. They also asserted that this was not an uncommon view. I have a hard time believing this so I'm putting it to the AIBU poll.

To be clear, I'm pro choice, but I do believe that, for example, a 30 week foetus is factually, scientifically considered to be alive.

Surely, even if you're pro-choice all the way up until birth, you accept that the foetus is alive?

YABU = A foetus is not alive, until birth.
YANBU = A foetus is alive in the womb.

OP posts:
OneCoralGoose · 19/03/2026 17:23

EggplantSurprise · 19/03/2026 16:52

Unfortunately Irish abortion law for many years saw its rights as fully equal to that of the woman carrying it.

Under some circumstances, as my friend whos twin was killed by someone attacking her mother and wanted the person done for murder not all cases

IrregularMo0n · 19/03/2026 17:23

MagicMarkers · 19/03/2026 17:20

I know a woman, who thinks foetuses "aren't human"! I think people don't want to face what abortion actually is so they make up this and the "not alive" nonsense.

Edited

Yes this. The same mental gymnastics that some people are willing to embarrass themselves by pretending they think a man can identify in and out of womanhood several times in as many days or even moments.

DownsideUpside · 19/03/2026 17:24

For the most part (ie before viability) I’d say a foetus is alive in so much as it is a living thing dependent upon environment/host to continue to survive. So like gut bacteria, for instance. Alive doesn’t mean able to survive independently.

Tiswa · 19/03/2026 17:26

Legally no it is t in this country until it is born there is no legal person

so if a pregnant woman is stabbed if the baby is born dead there is no murder, it has to be born alive in order to do so

and from a legal perspective it makes sense

human life begins at conception being alive as an independent legal person begins at birth

DownsideUpside · 19/03/2026 17:26

IrregularMo0n · 19/03/2026 17:23

Yes this. The same mental gymnastics that some people are willing to embarrass themselves by pretending they think a man can identify in and out of womanhood several times in as many days or even moments.

Classic bit of mumsnet logic there, shoehorning trans issues into an unrelated thread 🏆

Denim4ever · 19/03/2026 17:26

Mmmchocolatebuttons · 19/03/2026 16:39

I had a discussion with someone, who believes that a foetus is not alive, until the point they are born. They also asserted that this was not an uncommon view. I have a hard time believing this so I'm putting it to the AIBU poll.

To be clear, I'm pro choice, but I do believe that, for example, a 30 week foetus is factually, scientifically considered to be alive.

Surely, even if you're pro-choice all the way up until birth, you accept that the foetus is alive?

YABU = A foetus is not alive, until birth.
YANBU = A foetus is alive in the womb.

When compiling statistics the expression 'live births' is used. The alternative is generally 'still births'. Additionally, one form of miscarriage is when the foetus has died in the womb. As far as I can see, if we are using terminology and description in these ways a foetus is alive before its born

CraftyNavySeal · 19/03/2026 17:27

KvotheTheBloodless · 19/03/2026 16:55

It's definitely alive! It has a heartbeat, and there are lots of people walking around who were born at 24+ weeks.

I'm pro-choice, as anything else is depriving women of bodily autonomy, but I do believe abortion is killing a baby and shying away from that isn't helpful. Sometimes it's the least worst option, though.

Right, I think trying to argue that it’s not alive or baby or a person weakens the pro choice argument.

I’m pro choice because no one is entitled to use another persons body to stay alive, not because I believe there’s a magical point where a fetus becomes a baby.

wotsitallfor · 19/03/2026 17:28

Medically they will try and save a baby that is born from 24 weeks. So they are alive when they get a heartbeat but not viable until 24 weeks

dammit88 · 19/03/2026 17:29

Of course it's alive! You don't have to be a person to be be alive. Plants are alive. Animals are alive. A foetus is alive. People who pretend it isn't have another agenda.

SmallChildCryingTearsofButter · 19/03/2026 17:31

Mmmchocolatebuttons · 19/03/2026 16:49

Female with children. In a discussion about the recent decriminalisation of abortion.

Yikes! Did she have no idea what was happening while she was pregnant? This level of ignorance about basic biology is worrying.

sanityisamyth · 19/03/2026 17:32

Octavia64 · 19/03/2026 16:43

The concept of alive is a tricky one scientifically.

my kids in school were taught a mnemonic for working out if something is alive:

MRSGREN.

can’t remember what it stands for.

it is generally the case that babies in the womb have fewer rights legally than babies that have been born. A baby that has been born is definitely a person whereas a baby in the womb may or may not be.

M - movement (a foetus moves)
R - respiration (a foetus respires)
S - sensitivity (a foetus responds to its environment)
G - growth (a foetus growsh
R - reproduction (a foetus can reproduce when it reaches maturity)
E - excretion (a foetus produces waste)
N - nutrition (a foetus needs “food” (glucose, amino acids, vitamins etc)

Yes - it’s alive.

Mostunexpected · 19/03/2026 17:32

It is not capable of independent life, but neither are parasites and parasites are absolutely alive.

SmallChildCryingTearsofButter · 19/03/2026 17:33

DownsideUpside · 19/03/2026 17:26

Classic bit of mumsnet logic there, shoehorning trans issues into an unrelated thread 🏆

I see it more as a comment on the extremely worrying levels of ignorance of biology and the propensity of some to allow ideology to overtake all fact and rationality. Two cheeks of the same arse so to speak.

DotAndCarryOne2 · 19/03/2026 17:33

RingoJuice · 19/03/2026 17:15

I’m not sure why pro-choice advocates want to die on this hill. It’s obviously alive, it’s a baby. Stop with euphemisms that try to gloss over this point.

We can advocate for abortion on the grounds that forcing women to care for children that they are unable or unwilling to support is undesirable on a societal level. You don’t have to lie to people to accomplish this.

Have you seen the lies the anti abortion lobby tell ?

Haughp · 19/03/2026 17:35

Its alive. But not independent.

I think ideally we would move the abortion limit to slightly earlier than 24w as they can survive then— aside from issues found on scan.

I obviously dont agree with countries who are forcing birth and prioritising the baby

TicklishReader · 19/03/2026 17:40

DotAndCarryOne2 · 19/03/2026 17:33

Have you seen the lies the anti abortion lobby tell ?

Well, quite.

If the Anti-Choice lobby weren't so deceitful, we wouldn't need to be so careful about the terminology we use.

Ninerainbows · 19/03/2026 17:41

Mostunexpected · 19/03/2026 17:32

It is not capable of independent life, but neither are parasites and parasites are absolutely alive.

I agree. Sounds a bit Handmaid's Tale, but it's alive yet it needs the host.

Teainapinkcup · 19/03/2026 17:48

Mmmchocolatebuttons · 19/03/2026 16:39

I had a discussion with someone, who believes that a foetus is not alive, until the point they are born. They also asserted that this was not an uncommon view. I have a hard time believing this so I'm putting it to the AIBU poll.

To be clear, I'm pro choice, but I do believe that, for example, a 30 week foetus is factually, scientifically considered to be alive.

Surely, even if you're pro-choice all the way up until birth, you accept that the foetus is alive?

YABU = A foetus is not alive, until birth.
YANBU = A foetus is alive in the womb.

Of course the human is growing in there! its alive, I cant even believe anyone has to ask that, this day and age, its ridiculous!

to anyone... Don't want a child? then take precautions or do not have sex if becoming a mother is not an option!

DownsideUpside · 19/03/2026 17:49

SmallChildCryingTearsofButter · 19/03/2026 17:33

I see it more as a comment on the extremely worrying levels of ignorance of biology and the propensity of some to allow ideology to overtake all fact and rationality. Two cheeks of the same arse so to speak.

Others see it as irrelevant derailing of the thread and agenda-pushing

Zanatdy · 19/03/2026 17:51

It has a heartbeat, which indicates life.

Iamgucciyouarecrocs · 19/03/2026 17:52

notatinydancer · 19/03/2026 16:45

The thing is a 30 week old fetus could possibly (probably) survive outside the womb.
A 12 week fetus couldn’t.

Doesn’t make it unalive though does it 🫠

SunMoonandChocolate · 19/03/2026 17:52

I had a serious kidney infection when I was just a few weeks pregnant, was taken for a scan, and the doctor said 'I'm very sorry, I'm afraid your baby has died', so in my opinion, a foetus is alive, without question.

CatkinToadflax · 19/03/2026 17:53

DS1 was born at 24 weeks twenty years ago. We nearly lost him on more occasions than I can count, but he is very much still alive now. We are enormously lucky.

TicklishReader · 19/03/2026 17:54

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Sassoon · 19/03/2026 17:57

Of course it’s alive. So is a spider plant.

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