My dream job has come up locally - not sure how it would work with home life.

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Should I still apply and just see?
I’m worried I’m going to get my hopes up.

I’ve been thinking about going back to full time for a little while. I currently work 10 hours a week at a school.

Years ago, I wanted to get into weddings and events.. but I had no idea how and living rurally not much ever came up that was a reasonable distance to travel. But today a job has come up 15 minutes away from me. It’s a wedding coordinator - I don’t have much experience of wedding planning, other than my own wedding a few years back. But I do have a ton of people-facing, customer facing and under-pressure work experience.

I’m also unsure how it would work around home life. I have a husband who works 8-6 mon-fri and two children who need to get too and from school.

it’s working from home, other than to attend the weddings, meetings, viewing ect.

is there any point in me applying? I desperately would love it.. but if I apply and get invited to interview, then offered the job I feel like I’m going to be disheartened when it doesn’t work around my family. 😭

Apply for it and see what happens

Give it a go and find out! Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Don't borrow trouble.

Apply and see what happens.

If they offer you the job you may be able to ask for an adjustment to the hours.

If you want a job then you pay for childcare
Start looking at wrap round at their schools, childminders etc

your DH could ask for flexi working
surely the weekdays would be office hours and the weekends you’d have to be at venues etc so your partner would be around anyway?

In these circumstances you always apply. You can turn down something you have been offered but you can’t go back to apply if you change your mind. So go do it and work out the rest as you go along

Years ago I went to a recruitment seminar thing and they advised asking for an informal meeting about the prospective job. I have no idea on stats if it makes you more likely to get the job if you are chosen to interview, but its something to consider asking for.

And yes, I would go for it.

Ask for an informal chat with the recruiter. That's the only way you know will know about the hours expectations and what flexibility exists. One thing I am sure you have already considered is that you will lose mostly all of your weekends in the summer.

Why is childcare solely her responsibility?

Definitely apply. I would imagine that most of that work could be done within school hours.

Also you would probably need to work quite a few weekends if you are actually attending the weddings (don’t know if that is the expectation?) so there has to be some give and take in the week.

Hmm I’m in two minds. One part of me says go for it, life is short, wasn’t it Richard Branson who said something along the lines of “say yes to everything and work out how to do it later “. I kinda like that.

Then in the other hand, there are the practicalities… how will your children get to and from school if your husband can’t do it, will your husband and kids support you every weekend in the summer if you’re at event, what will school holidays look like if you’re working from home or need childcare in the day. Whilst I don’t want to be a downer, these are things that need to be sorted. Great if you have a husband who is super flexible or a grandmother who can pick up the harder days but what if you don’t.

id hate for you to apply , get the job and then the reality of your situation means you can’t take it. Unfortunately companies do remember things like this. Say the opportunity comes up later down the line, say another 5 years, they will remember you went through the whole process, not to take it in the end. Companies hate that and it is remembered.

on the other hand if you think it’s totally doable then go for it!

Apply and see what happens, but make sure you have thought through the ‘WFH except for… ‘ situations. You would likely need to be able to see clients in the afternoons/evenings (because they work) and weddings are usually Fridays and Saturdays - what would be your plan for school pick ups and childcare? Who looks after your kids if they are sick, as you can’t skip a wedding on the day? Is your DH flexible and able to WFH in those cases, do you have a DM/DMiL who can step in at short notice?

You’ll need answers for this at interview, but more importantly, if you get an offer, you need to have these firmed in your mind and with your DH.

Is it as the coordinator at a local venue or for a company that helps couples find local venues/contractors, in which case would you need to be available to do prospective site visits etc. Again, not putting you off, just make sure you have it sorted in your mind and a plan in place.

Apply. Or at least find out a bit more about when and where you would be required to work. No point talking yourself out of it without more information.

You'll figure it out.
What if you didn't apply and someone you knew got it?

Why should you not go for it other than you are a mother? You'd apply like a shot if you were a father.

Overthinking!

Apply. See what happens!

Are you abd the rest of your family happy for you to be working Saturdays?

Where did I say that? I suggested her DH look at flexi working
and her DH would be around on the weekends to look after the kids

I think it’s valuable experience to do the application and interview if you get one and tbh, it’s probably best to go in with the mindset that it’ll just be for that experience.

If you apply, it doesn’t guarantee you an interview.
If you get an interview, it doesn’t guarantee you the job.
If you’re offered the job, you don’t have to accept it.
If you accept it and it doesn’t work out, go back to plan A
If you accept it and it works out- happy days.

If you don’t apply, none of the above applies.

Good idea to ask for an informal chat.

I’d apply. If there’s an option for an informal chat you could ask what does a typical week look like in terms of hours. Don’t mention childcare just try and get a flavour of job. I’d assume weekend work and less hours in week.

I would apply, see what happens.

If you get to the interview stage then see what the full job entails - how much wfh? Will you need to be present during the wedding days? Realistically how much on site work is there and what days? How are they expecting appointments to be managed - face to face or phone or video calls? Is there a team or just you?

If you get a job offer then start thinking about childcare and how things will work.

Something to think about though is if there is a lot of on site work and you need to be present for the wedding days is how often weddings are taking place and what days - weekends, evenings into nights, early morning starts if you need to be there to manage set up and arrival of vendors. Some venues have weddings every day of the week, some are every Friday and Saturday. Some only have a few weddings every year.

What would put me off would be the weekend work. I would assume the role would be very busy most weekends in wedding season? But maybe that would work well for you as a family?

How old are your children? If they are still very young, I think it will be tricky to make this job happen unless you have plenty of childcare options available. If your DC are secondary school aged you should definitely apply.

I would imagine that a lot of the work would be weekends and evenings especially summer and spring.

Apply

Definitely apply OP