My sister blocked me

[tinychickpea]

My sister and I have had a fractious relationship over the last few years. Her husband is a bit of a reform voting toxic masculine kind of man. We used to get on but over the years, have drifted apart and don't really have anything in common.

My son goes to our parents house after school one day a week and she tends to bring her own kids. As my son is getting towards high school, I've tended not to put him online. I don't have Facebook and stopped sharing him on Instagram about ten months ago when we had a conversation and he said he wasn't comfortable. All good.

My sister is a prolific sharer to the point I find it slightly uncomfortable. Think photos of her kids in high dependcy unit on oxygen and long narrative captions. She keeps putting photos of my son online so eventually I asked her to not do it anymore. I was very polite about it. She then blocked me on WhatsApp and Instagram.

I can't work out if this is a two fingers up like "you can't see my profile now so I can' do what I want" or a bit of an embarrassment / shame response. Either way, I don't know what to do now and I'm pretty annoyed that a normal parenting boundary has been responded to in this way. I could flag with my parents but I suspect they'd back her.

She's being very unreasonable I bet it's this:

"I can't work out if this is a two fingers up like "you can't see my profile now so I can' do what I want"

Can you stop her taking photos of him at all?

I don’t see how you can stop her, but your son sounds old enough to stay out of her photos, isn’t that the simpler solution?

She is not only disregarding your request but also your sons.

There’s not much you can do if she has blocked you unless you physically see her and talk to her, you just have to hope she stops sharing your son’s photos.

Has your son asked her not to post his photo online? Because surely, if she gives any sort of fucks about her nephew, she'd respect that more than the request from you? Whatever, dick move on her part, seriously immature response.

I'd have a word with your son: 'I know you don't like pictures of yourself on line, Auntie Brenda makes loads of posts so if you are not happy for her to post them online, don't pose for a picture for her'

Tell you son to let her know, she should at least be able to respect his wishes.

I hate when people put up photos on social media without asking. My boyfriend’s sister thinks she’s some sort of influencer and really overshares as well without checking if we want to be on her very public accounts.

Your son shouldn't have to get to an age where he has to ask you to stop sharing his personal photos online.

This sort of thing should be 'opt in' when they're old enough to make an educated decision but I digress.

And I agree with a PP, tell your son not to let his aunt take his photo and ask the rest of your family not to send her any either.