AIBU to leave tutor and 9-year-old to work at kitchen table?

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How does it work for you?

Due to start 9 year old Ds with a tutor to help with his writing. She will come to our home.
I’m thinking they can work on our kitchen table, I will provide a drink, maybe biscuits, have his work and pencil case ready and disappear to give them some quiet?
Does this sound about right?
Do you chat with your tutor or just let them in and leave them to get on with it?
I’m feeling quite anxious as Ds has some behavioural problems.

This is all new to me.

My 16 year old ds gas a tutor, he comes to our house, I set up the kitchen table, I say hi then go out shopping and let them get on with it.

How much is she charging? I am a maths gcse, a level and uni entrance exam tutor and charge £50ph for students coming to my home. I’m in SE England and these rates are on the low side for my 20+ years experience.

I would say that, as long as you have had a chat with the tutor beforehand about your child’s specific needs and potential triggers, then you trust in their experience of dealing with sen students, and leave them to do the lesson alone. By all means, be available in another part of the house if needed but, if the tutor has enough experience, this shouldn’t be necessary.

I’ve taught so many Sen students over the years and, tbh, a parent in the room actually doesn’t help when I’m working with a student. Most of the time, they can never resist intervening 🤣

We have done both, had a tutor to our house and also (currently) drop off at tutors house. When our tutor came to our house my son was younger than yours is now and we left them to it and she debriefed me at the end. She is presumably experienced at dealing with children so I’m sure they will be fine!

I'm sure she calculated her rate. Don't worry about it.

It may not suit her for kids to go to her house. My kids have had lessons in tutor's houses where the tutor is sharing a house with others. It can be difficult to block off the kitchen or living room and its obviously inappropriate to do a lesson in a bedroom/office

In some instances, it suits the tutors more to teach in the kid's house.

I offer a drink, have a quick chat and then leave them to it - I need to finish work, as the tutor arrives at 5pm. It has never been a problem.

She’s charging less than that and will be coming to us

My daughter has a maths tutor but they meet online. Shes autistic and has situational mutism so I found a woman who has experience with that. First couple sessions I was there to talk but slowly inched my way out of the room. She does it all herself now and I just get on with whatever I’m doing (it’s Sunday mornings so endless laundry usually!)

I think kids do much better without their parent right there in most instances.

I used to private tutor kids from around age 9. What you're proposing would be fine. Some families I worked with kids in their bedrooms or a study. Some I used the kitchen table. Parents usually made themselves scarce. I had a DBS check and preferred the parents but hovering.

I'd have preferred the parent to discuss any behavioural problems and management strategies with me before the lesson and to have a plan for check in afterwards.

I guess it depends on the behavioural problems?

my Dd has a maths tutor and the set up is exactly as you’ve described. However, I know my Dd will be well behaved & well mannered - much better behaved than she would be if she was doing maths with me 😂

it would be a different story if I didn’t trust her to behave. A tutor isn’t like a teacher in the way that they’re there purely to teach for an hour. Unlike teachers in a class, the tutor is there to educate only - they’re not responsible for discipline and/or correcting their behaviour