If potentially seeing your ex husband after 15 years, would you be sure to look good?

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As per title, I may see ex husband after 15years, I almost want to look my best but why? I left him!! It's so odd

Yes but not for him to fancy me, the fact you want thay and say how much you loved him would indicate you’ve still a thing for him.

No, I wouldn’t give a stuff

My ex told me I wouldn’t last 5 minutes without him. Yet here I am 15 years later, fittest I’ve ever been. Damn right I’ll be looking my best when I know I have to see him (rare, but it’s happened).

If I bumped into my ex-husband wearing a binbag with scarecrow hair I really wouldn't care. In fact it would probably make me laugh.

That said, there is one ex. Who I still love. And we cannot be together due to matters of distance and other complications. If I ever bumped into him in person... I would want to look like a greek goddess, sleek in white, hair in curls down my back, gold jewellery glinting off my skin... and that is just the truth. Also I'm taller than him when in heels, so nice gold skyscraper sandals! And the soundtrack would be by Gwenno! Not that I have thought about it ever...

I honestly wouldn’t care. My ex-husband’s wife is also about 3 dress sizes smaller than me but I just pity her for being with such a vile man. I know from DS that they’ve split up before and they have horrendous arguments. Plus they’ve got a shared FB page…there’s only one reason why people do that 🤔

If it was an amicable split where we both wished each other all the best and were more or less friendly, then no, I wouldn't care how I looked.

But if it was an ex I really disliked - yes, I would want to look fucking great.

It's not really about caring what they think of you or wanting to impress them. I'd want to look good in front of a horrible ex in the same way that I'd want to look good if I bumped into a toxic ex-colleague, or someone who bullied me at school or something.

It's about not giving them the satisfaction of being able to feel superior to you. It's petty, sure, but it also makes you feel like you've 'won'.