In the last two years, I was the victim of at least 30 crimes during a sustained period of trauma. I was luckily incredibly well supported and am making a positive recovery.
I am in a fortunate enough position to have quite a strong civil case, as mistakes in the police led to my first initial crime being too contaminated to ever properly assess, but payouts probably won’t be worth the time and effort or life changing.
I find the ‘move on, be the bigger person’ narrative quite insulting to victims of crimes because it only really puts the onus on the victim and not the perpetrator.
I have had no accountability from those involved in my trauma. No real apologies, no real changes. Thinking about civil action makes me feel better because it prevents it from happening to others, corrects the record and also people pay attention to financial penalties. The first is what keeps me awake at night still.
But also this will take up time and require me to relive a very traumatic period. I have done so well to recover and get to the place where I am now.
so I am asking - Aibu? Is the advice to walk away truly in my interests? If anyone else has experienced a traumatic crime, was pursuing justice worth it? Thank you for reading