Reverse sexism

[Finallythesunisshining]

I work 7.30am til 5.30pm so am out of the house 7am - 6pm. DH works from home the majority of the week with a couple of mornings in the office. I am not allowed my phone at work apart from during my 30min lunch break. Due to this, DH is primary contact for the kids on all the school contact details and the Doctors. Yet every single time the children are off ill, despite DH emailing the absence line, the school phones me to do their welfare checks. ( Academy - they phone everyone who's off ). It's not just the school. DH filled out an E-consult for DD yesterday and gave all his contact details. I came on lunch to 2 missed phone calls from the Doctors!

Surely it's reverse sexism to automatically assume that the Mother is the person who deals with the children and the Dad is out at work? Do other families experience this or are my children's school/Doctors surgery just rubbish? I'm fed up of repeating that I can not answer my phone at work which is why he's the primary contact! Sorry rant over! 😂

Poll:

YANBU - the school/Doctor should contact DH as he's listed as primary contact/has initiated communication with them.

YABU - you're the Mum, of course they're going to phone you first.

My daughter gets pretty much the same problem. She can’t be contacted at work (barring absolute apocalyptic events) and her two oldest children live with their father, who is easily contactable. Still they call her with anything welfare related, we can’t figure it either.

It's not reverse sexism. It's sexism.

Yep, it's annoying. Put in a formal complaint because it's the only way to get them to change, and it's important that they can contact a parent in an emergency.

That's classic sexism.

It’s sexism, reverse sexism would surely be ignoring all differences in sex and embracing equality of the sexes?

This drives me (and DH) round the fucking bend!

DH is our kids primary carer, and the one who deals with the admin, does the school runs, is listed as primary contact, etc etc yet every single fucking time there's an issue, I get the call and I then have to phone him to relay the message so he can deal with it.

Why aren't you just telling them every time they do it to read their documentation properly and call the primary contact?

It’s just bog standard sexism, they’re assuming that childcare is the woman’s job.

It’s crappy and you should escalate.