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AIBU to think it’s unfair my DD is always hidden in dance shows?

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shouldicontactthisperson · 17/03/2026 17:36

DD attends weekly dance classes in acro, ballet & tap, and the dance school puts on 3 shows a year. Her class is for 4-6 year olds and there are clearly some extremely talented dancers. DD enjoys the classes and is probably “average,” if this is even a thing. In the shows they will generally arrange the children into 2 rows, and without fail DD is always at the back in one corner. It’s forbidden to take your own photos as they hire a professional photographer, however DD couldn’t be seen in any of the photos from the last show. I’ve watched the kids line up at the side before being brought on stage, and they tend to rearrange them so that not only the best dancers are at the front, but also the little sisters/cousins of the older girls who are competitive dancers.

DH is unhappy with this - they are little kids and we have all paid the same for classes & show participation. My question is - is this normal for dance schools and AWBU to think it’s a little unfair? I have absolutely no grand notions about DD becoming a professional dancer 😁 however I’m not keen to pay a small fortune for classes and keep queuing for shows where I can’t actually see her perform!

OP posts:
4wardlooking · 17/03/2026 19:53

@shouldicontactthisperson sometimes I think the teachers just put themselves under immense unnecessary pressure to put on the best show they possibly can, to justify the costs they charge, and completely forget who their audience is and why they are there.

No parent wants to watch the same talented kids over and over again (even once tbh) when they’re are there to watch their own child. As the children get older, they too start to sense the unfairness of it all.

OP, not sure what you can do to improve this except find a more ‘for fun and inclusive’ school.

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