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labamba18 · 2026-03-17T09:58:35+00:00

Two threads I’ve spotted at the moment, one a slim woman who is constantly pressured into eating cake when she doesn’t want to. And one a woman who has lost weight and a cruel relative is questioning how she did it. But more broadly what is it about weight that so many women (not all, or even the majority most likely but a significant portion) are so obsessed with? Why do people care so much about other people’s bodies? It seems deep rooted in something bigger.

CarbGoading · 17/03/2026 15:33

I'm a millenial and I am still programmed to think I only look good in clothes if I'm skinny, which I'm not, so I never think I look nice in clothes. But I can look at curvy and big women and think they look gorgeous! I have a friend who is bigger and I wish I looked like her in clothes. So, I feel genuinely body positive about others, but have a block when it comes to my own body. Madness.

JohnTheRevelator · 17/03/2026 15:38

I know exactly what you mean. My (now thankfully) exSIL was obsessed with finding out how much I weighed. OK,so I WAS overweight and frequently on some sort of diet,but it used to piss me off the way she kept trying to find out my weight. She'd say so how much do you want to lose? Followed by what's your target weight? Obviously thinking that I wouldn't know that she'd be able to work out my current weight by what I told her!

zurigo · 17/03/2026 16:52

Duffyuip · 17/03/2026 13:10

Because weight is viewed as a moral issue - if you’re slim, you’re disciplined, successful, hard working, intelligent. If you’re fat you’re ill-disciplined, a failure, slovenly, lazy, thick.

Being fit and slim is more than just a health issue. It means the slim and fit person is morally superior to the fat and unfit person. The former only get to where they are through sacrifices that fat people are too morally compromised to make.

Thats why so many women are “against” weight loss injections. Suddenly weight loss and a slim body are easier to achieve, it removes some of the moral superiority. They seek to reassert the moral superiority by suggesting the use of weight loss injections is in itself morally compromised - that fitness and a slim body can only be properly achieved through hard work, and a slim body achieved with no hard work is somehow “lesser”.

How do you explain my obese SIL being upset that my DH has used the jabs to get down to a healthy weight then? Is she just jealous? I suspect this is it. She claims that her views are purely because she's worried about the long-term health consequences, while ignoring the consequences of obesity on his (and presumably her own) health. I was really surprised how angry she seemed when he lost the weight. For him though, it's been amazing. He's got so much more energy and vitality - it's like he got 10 years younger.

Needspaceforlego · 17/03/2026 17:52

zurigo · 17/03/2026 16:52

How do you explain my obese SIL being upset that my DH has used the jabs to get down to a healthy weight then? Is she just jealous? I suspect this is it. She claims that her views are purely because she's worried about the long-term health consequences, while ignoring the consequences of obesity on his (and presumably her own) health. I was really surprised how angry she seemed when he lost the weight. For him though, it's been amazing. He's got so much more energy and vitality - it's like he got 10 years younger.

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She told you, the WLI remove some of the superiority complex some women attach to being slim.

Wildgoat · 17/03/2026 18:14

zurigo · 17/03/2026 16:52

How do you explain my obese SIL being upset that my DH has used the jabs to get down to a healthy weight then? Is she just jealous? I suspect this is it. She claims that her views are purely because she's worried about the long-term health consequences, while ignoring the consequences of obesity on his (and presumably her own) health. I was really surprised how angry she seemed when he lost the weight. For him though, it's been amazing. He's got so much more energy and vitality - it's like he got 10 years younger.

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I also think it’s jealousy and to an extent I get that.

i was really unwell when I gained weight, very high blood pressure, sleep apnea and high cholesterol. I also really disliked my appearance dressing in stretchy black clothes.

If I’d been unable to afford the meds, and I could see people getting them becoming slim, being really healthy, loving their appearance, running round in size ten jeans, as I sat in my size 18s, being unhealth, finding it utterly impossible to stick to a diet, as the sleep apnea left me exhausted beyond belief, I can imagine I’d feel some jealoosy, and resentment, anger even thay others could get them and I couldn’t.

but I do like to think I’d not attack, spread misinformation, pretend to be concerned about long term effects, and try to make people feel bad or worried about taking them, I’d like to think I’d own it, and say I would love these drugs, I’m struggling so much, but I can’t access them,

who knows, I’m fortunately not in that situation, I am on them, and can afford, and been hugely successful, but I’ve never behaved badly as I’m jealous, treated others badly as I’m jealous. But others feel that they can do that, or can’t stop themselves, from the anonymity of their key boards they let it all out, or beyond closed doors.

i think when the price comes down and these become more widely available it will stop, but whilst it’s a have and have not situation, and its over something so enviable, it will continue. The anger will persist.