To ask how you feel happy when your child doesn't?

[Drippingfeed]

Adult child is out of work, I'm sick with worry they won't find anything. Can't enjoy anything not going away not music, reading, nothing I usually love. Not sleeping with it.
It feels horrifically selfish to make it about me but how do I stop this sickening feeling poisoning everything
DH whilst concerned isn't letting it get to him like this.
Or should I just accept, shoulder the weight and acceptance I won't be happy until they get something. Feeling like it could be forever sometimes.
Obviously NOT letting a hint of this into convos with DC.

Is there are particular reason to think they won’t find another job?

Works in IT, everything is AI now. They have experience and skills but been looking for months now and no longer getting interviews. Did at first. Has asked friends and contacts but getting only news of mass layoffs.
SO worried 😟

This is one of those things where they will adapt or overcome. One way or another they will find a solution, be that taking a role outside of this wheelhouse or holding out for something. Your worries are valid, but this is something all young people face at times in their life and they learn resilience by working through it to find that solution. Offer support, have faith.
It will all be good in the end, hope you manage to get some peace though and the worries start to lessen. X

@Drippingfeed is your DC at risk of becoming homeless, can’t pay essential bills or go without food?

Then if the answer is no to all of the above, then stop worrying.

You are only as happy as your least happy child. It’s completely normal that our well being is linked with our children’s.

@Jambags is right, they will adapt or overcome and it will all come good in the end.

You're only as happy as your unhappiest child is the truest saying ever unfortunately.

Your child isn’t dying, so I think you need to relax a bit. Sorry if that sounds blunt, but this tough period will pass.

I understand the overwhelming feelings completely.

Would your child consider a relevant course online? Many US universities do interesting sounding ones at low prices. It would provide a focus and structure to each day and enhance the cv. Just a thought.