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To wish my neighbour would just fuck off?

33 replies

DoomCup · 16/03/2026 20:23

He bought the flat underneath me and moved in around a year ago and it's been an absolute piss take since day dot.

He has a small terrier which yaps and barks incessantly for 20 minutes or so at a time. This is punctuated by him yelling it's name intermittently to shush it, to no avail.

He has the loudest phonecalls for up to an hour at least once every evening - I can hear him word for word.

Most evenings/nights and every weekend since he moved in, he has been doing some sort of noisy DIY. This can be anything from loud power tools which make my floor shake, to hammering and drilling, to the slightly quieter sanding and painting.

Occasionally (maybe once every six weeks or so) he gets absolutely pissed and blasts music in the middle of the night (3am-4am).

I rent and I think my only option is to move. I've been here for years and had several tennants live in that flat before it was sold - guitarists who practiced loudly but at reasonable times, a young couple with a baby who I could often hear crying or them bickering, the last one liked to yell at the tv when there was football on - all of which were a bit annoying but not intrusive or beyond what might be expected when living in a flat.

I doubt the police will be interested and I know that other neighbours have chapped his door and complained face to face but it doesn't seem to have changed things.

I have heard him being aggressive over the phone when drunk so a bit wary of pissing him off as I'm a lone female.

One night I lost it and thumped the floor repeatedly with a broom until he took the hint but I don't think that's a long term solution.

OP posts:
Sannabay · 17/03/2026 07:41

jeaux90 · 17/03/2026 07:36

I would move. It sounds really really draining and I know it’s an expensive and drastic thing but I doubt he will change. He clearly hasn’t trained his dog well at all which tells you everything you need to know. I have just moved to a rural location and not having neighbours is absolutely blissful.

Op and me request coming to live with you Jeaux90.

We will be nice and quiet and 'considerate'
Just pop yr address below, we will rock up about 3 for tea n scones :)))

WizdomE · 17/03/2026 08:48

Be glad you don’t own the flat, you can at least move, if you owned it you would have to declare the conflict and your paperwork making the flat difficult to sell. So if your uncomfortable managing conflict, then move but I would learn some conflict management skills or you are likely to be in a similar situation in the future.

StripyShirt · 17/03/2026 10:59

Moving is the only realistic solution.

Tel12 · 17/03/2026 11:02

Turn everything up and go out for the day.

DoomCup · 17/03/2026 17:34

Thanks all.

I've started a proper noise diary as of this morning. I'm hoping that at the very least it will help me to rationalise what might be considered "normal" noise that I've become over sensitive to because of the stuff that really is unacceptable.

My main issue is with the dog barking, I don't know how it doesn't drive him mental let alone me!

Would love to move but it's just not possible financially or practically.

OP posts:
jeaux90 · 18/03/2026 07:13

Sannabay · 17/03/2026 07:41

Op and me request coming to live with you Jeaux90.

We will be nice and quiet and 'considerate'
Just pop yr address below, we will rock up about 3 for tea n scones :)))

🤣 I mean it is very peaceful and bucolic with pheasants wandering around etc but flip side is the enormous rats, how about scones in trade for some air rifle action 😆….. I really feel for Op, noisy neighbours are bloody awful and one of the reasons why we moved. I love the sound of kids playing but the neighbours at the back would let their kids scream pointlessly and the mum was always shouting and swearing at them. Horrible.

DoomCup · 18/03/2026 18:08

jeaux90 · 18/03/2026 07:13

🤣 I mean it is very peaceful and bucolic with pheasants wandering around etc but flip side is the enormous rats, how about scones in trade for some air rifle action 😆….. I really feel for Op, noisy neighbours are bloody awful and one of the reasons why we moved. I love the sound of kids playing but the neighbours at the back would let their kids scream pointlessly and the mum was always shouting and swearing at them. Horrible.

If I can bring my cat that might help with your rat problem? 😁

OP posts:
jeaux90 · 18/03/2026 18:53

DoomCup · 18/03/2026 18:08

If I can bring my cat that might help with your rat problem? 😁

🤣 deal!

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