AIBU to feel awkward about my cleaner over this?

[Swingsandroundaboutssss]

I’ve had my cleaner for about a year, she comes weekly. I am usually in as I wfh so we are friendly with each other, but I wouldn’t say she’s my friend. I try and stay out of her way when she’s here.

This morning I wasn’t in as I went into the office but my DH was so no problem. Later I had a phone call from her, she sounded panicked and asked if I was ok, as I hadn’t been at the house. She said she thought my DH looked ‘awful’ and said she noticed a duvet on the landing and that some of my toiletries had moved from the bathroom and asked if we had had a row and if I had moved out?! There was a duvet on the landing because DH slept on the floor in DDs room at the weekend because she was poorly. That’s also probably why he looks a bit tired! I’ve got some new bedroom furniture and had a reorganisation/clear out generally of my toiletries which is why some of my stuff has moved.

AIBU to think this was really odd? She asked me not to tell my DH about it but of course I did and we had a bit of a laugh about it but I feel quite awkward now. Would you get rid?

I think it’s nice she was clearly concerned and checked in on you. I wouldn’t give it any more thought. If you’re happy with her generally, then definitely don’t get rid. Based on posts on MN, good cleaners are hard to find!

Why would you sack her? I read this as she called you out of concern to make sure you’re ok.

She sounds kind and caring to me. If you are satisfied witb her work, why would you sack her!?

Why would you just leave a duvet on the landing when you knew the cleaner was coming?

I admit that is a little awkward and overstepping a bit of a personal boundary by asking, but it seems she was genuinely concerned and I don't think she would of called you otherwise. She just got it wrong and it was a bit awkward, no reason to fire her over it.

Aw no don't sack her for that. Glad you could laugh about it just leave it at that.

It was folded up on top of a cupboard not just on the floor!

Ahh she sounds a little over the top and perhaps is an anxious sort of person (jumping to an extreme conclusion). But I’d be glad that she cared enough to check on me. And if she was good at cleaning there is no chance I would get rid!

It think it's just super weird and over the top... !
I wouldn't fire her for that, but I would keep my distances from sharing any personal information.

sounds like she was scared to be in the house with a man alone and worried about your safety. perhaps shes a survivor of domestic abuse and went to a bad place in her head when she saw things she remembers from her life in a bad way.

she might have gotten a real fright. i’d ask if she’s ok.

i defo wouldn't sack her as you say she’s been fine in all other respects and seems caring.

My DH has been having some health issues recently, culminating in a heart attack a little while ago. Since he's retired & I still work, he does the bulk of the housework. However, due to his health problems I decided to employ a cleaner for an hour once a week to clean the bathroom, kitchen surfaces, cabinet fronts & floors in the main areas of our <rather small 2 bed> bungalow. I'm always in the office when she comes & need to leave early (about 07:00) before DH is fully compos-mentis & still wondering around in his dressing gown with a cup of coffee.

I'd be grateful if she contacted me if she had concerns about DH's well-being and/or health.

This would annoy me
I hate people who make a big drama out of nothing
They love the buzz and sticking their nose in dressed up I'm the guise of being "kind and caring"

She was looking out for you and being responsible. I am impressed. Just because families seem fine people shouldn't be unconcerned when someone is unexpectedly absent and things look different.

I think she was being nice.

As long as it doesn't keep happening over different issues, I would continue to employ her.

She sounds lovely. YABU