Passive aggressive or ?

[BlanketBlues]

Is it a passive aggressive reaction to send a thumbs op as a reply to one holiday picture in Messenger ? Or is it an ok answer? We are in our late forties/early fifties. No other pictures sent.

I just checked, our default icon is a smiley. I read it as “whatever”. I will wait for her to contact me as I at least think it is a confusing response.

I think you’re way overthinking this.

I hope I am. I just get nearveus she is upset with me for something I haven’t considered..

I wouldn’t say passive aggressive….but perhaps a somewhat disinterested reaction to a holiday photo. How did you mean to come across?

For me, it depends on who it is and what response I normally get from that person. My best friend would normally react with a heart and/or a written message so if she sent a thumbs up I'd feel dismissed. My mum is a bit more varied so I wouldn't read so much into it. If it was my husband, well, he never uses emojis so I'd assume he did it by accident! (He doesn't lock his phone properly and once changed the whole messenger theme of a shared chat with his mum to that of a Pixar film none of us had seen and sent a string of animated cloud emojis)

You could be projecting your own preferences onto this person but you know them best. Is this out of character for them?

I was the one sending the picture- I didn’t mean to “come across” as anything. It was just a holiday picture of my teenager and myself in front of a statue.

I have been thinking about this for a bit today and some of you may say it is a huuuuge overthinking, but I feel nervous she is angry for something and been wondering why I would think this. I feel she has been pulling away/not answering phone calls and not replying to text but at the same time writing to my daughter about her - my daughters - 18 year party this summer. Which she is invited to. With her child and boyfriend. So on one hand I feel she is ignoring me and on the other, invested in my daughter’s birthday.
im so confused 🤔

Please don’t waste your time away with your daughter ruminating and posting about this. It was just a bit of a lukewarm response and it’s a real non event. Think no more of it. Or at least try to delay this spiralling until after your trip is over. Holidays like this are precious and if your dd is 18 you might not go away together many more times.

ah ok. I wouldn’t overthink it but not knowing the context/ background of your relationship with the recipient I would interpret this as being a bit disinterested. Or possibly jealous?

Yeah the thumbs up is pretty dismissive. Maybe not intended that way but that's the way I take it.

A heart ❤️ seems more appropriate for a holiday pic. I would use a thumbs up 👍 to agree to something factual like ‘let’s say Tues at 8’ or ‘I bought the dog food’ but on its own I would not read much into the choice of emoji