He got diagnosed with a very rare medical condition when he was a baby. He had to have surgeries because of this when he was a kid. On the outside he seems perfectly fine and you couldn't tell her has anything 'wrong' with him. But apparently his medical condition reduces his life expectancy in the long term. People with this condition have survived only in to their 40s and 50s
Medical intervention for this procedure is quite new and only started in the 80s so there are no statistics or data on people who have live longer than 40-50 years old.
When we got married my husband did tell me the name of the medical condition, he did tell me about his surgeries and he seems absolutely fine on a day to day basis. Whenever we have talked about it, he says 'I'll be fine'
I did google his condition in the past and while it did seem life threatening, seeing as my husband looks 'fine' on the outside I didn't really dwell on it
However what threw me off is that he got refused life insurance in the country we live in when trying to purchase a house, as the insurers basically don't believe he will life for another 30 years (we are in our early 30s)
I did more research on his condition and found out that the surgeries he had are only 'palliative' and not a cure. Meaning that his condition will most likely worsen with age. The more I read about it, the more I realize this condition is worse than I thought and I don't think my husband shared enough with me on this
He's the one diagnosed with it, he's the one who's been through the surgeries and had all the medical appointments, he should have known more about his condition right? Should he not have told me that he might have a reduced life expectancy before we got married and emphasized on this point so that I can make an informed decision about my future??
We have kids now and im so angry at him for putting my kids and my future in danger. Is this selfish of him? Or am I over reacting.
I do agree that no one really knows what the outcome looks like for people with this condition. It's more like a 'wait and watch' situation but shouldn't he have told me more about all of this?
When we have talked about this in the past he did genuinely seem lost about the medical jargon of his condition as was I.
However, when the insurers refused him life insurance, he asked me ' do you feel like I haven't told you enough about my condition before we got married?'
I said yes and he said its because he thinks he was in denial about his condition.
Do you think he was consciously witholding information from me? I feel fooled.