Worried my ex will fight for custody despite not being involved

[Sashaholly]

Hi everyone, I recently found out (through his wife’s boyfriend) that my ex-partner might try to go to court for custody of our daughter. We’ve been divorced for three years. During that time, he’s been very inconsistent in seeing her. In fact, last week he didn’t even come to the hospital when she needed him, which is why I ended up blocking him.

I feel this isn’t fair, especially given his past behavior. I’m unsure what steps I should take to protect my daughter and myself legally. Has anyone been through something similar or can offer advice on how best to prepare if he does try to take custody?

Thanks in advance

Your recent ex has a wife who has a boyfriend? Sounds a strange set up.

Why did your daughter need him at the hospital? How old is she?

I’d bet my house that he won’t. Crap dads love to pretend to people that they’re the opposite by making BS claims that they’re going to go for custody. If he couldn’t be arsed to show up for his daughter when she was ill, why would he be willing to upturn his whole life by taking her full time?

I understand you’re panicking and worried, but please try to relax and look at this logically. You’ve more chance of winning the euromillions than it ever happening x

Unlikely to be true. Probably more a case of the wife's boyfriend stiring the pot to cause drama.

It depends whether he has a tendency to oppositional behaviour. Some men will, if they think they are being denied.

She’s 6 she was asking for her dad she hardly sees him and she was really poorly. And her dad messages me here and there asking about how is she it’s just via WhatsApp. Yeah his wife has “ bf” still active in life it’s so bazzzire and he shares all the information with me.

Thank you exactly I agree with you no I never stopped him from seeing his daughter he was invited to meetings school events bday parties you name it.

I agree with that part too some people love drama

You shouldn’t have blocked him for not coming to the hospital. That just enrages, he then goes to the extreme of threatening all sorts to whoever will listen!

Probably best, no matter how crap he is, to keep him onside, so keep it friendly. Hard to do, when they are disappointments but this way you always get what you want. No threats, no trouble.