Anyone else find this bizarre?

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Grown adults posting Mother’s Day messages on instagram - two of my friends have DM’s in their 90’s so they were never going to see what they put on their stories!!

Performative drivel

Just attention-seeking bollocks

It's really odd.

Attention seeking?

My siblings put messages to DM on facebook. She didn’t use it when she was alive. Yes people are bizarre but if it makes them happy.

Not as bizarre as all the 'Happy heavenly Mother's Day' posts but just as harmless.

It’s just what some people do isn’t it. I know it’d make my mums day if I tagged her in a shit post because she is that way inclined. I even found the picture but it all sounds so false and performative. I just sent it on a text message as she is the intended audience. I see other people do it and half think how sweet and half eye roll because I know they’re vile to each other in real life.

Yes very bizarre, but a lot of people do a lot of
odd things on social media. Someone I know has posted 3 separate Mother’s Day posts in the past 24 hours to her mum complete with photos going back decades, her mum is in a nursing home with dementia.

A friend of mine lost her daughter in tragic circumstances a few years ago. She always posts a happy heavenly birthday on Facebook. Daughters friends always comment as well. Maybe its a comfort to her, knowing she hasnt been forgotten. What's wrong with that?

I put one on my mums online memorial page. I hope that’s not weird or performative,

How do you know their 90 year old mothers don't have Instagram?

Exactly! My 88 year old Mum has Instagram and FB. She also has dementia and can't read it but she likes "looking at the pictures".

She sounds like a wonderful daughter. I hope she finds some comfort in her happy memories.

Grown adults on instagram and then complaining about it

I find it over the top and attention seeking. Or making posts directed to their children who aren't even old enough to read let alone have instagram.

Its been happening since social media was invented.

I find how people behave on SM fascinating.

Im always amazed by people who seem fine in real life but on social media have absolutely no filter or sense of self awareness. 'Just a few snaps from my holiday!' 236 pictures later, half of them selfies, the other half random views and buildings that they somehow thought people would find interesting. I guess these are the people who would have got the holiday slides out, accompanied by endless commentary in years gone by, every time you went to their house.

Or there are the people who constantly brag about their children's perfectly ordinary achievements. We're all proud of our children but I dont post a star of the week picture and 'So proud of this one!!!!!' when it's their turn to get it.

My favourite today was someone I went to school with. She was always super confident and now works in the media. I always liked her, she was loud, but great fun. I was surprised today though that her mother's day post was all about her - and the reason she is so confident, strong, intelligent (yes really) and generally amazing is due to her mother. Who isn't even on FB. So essentially just an ode to herself.

I can't fathom how little self awareness there is! (I do quite enjoy it though)

Well you're bursting with empathy arent you. Pouring scorn on people who have lost their mums. You do realise you don't have to read it, dont you?

When my dad was alive, I used to put a Facebook message about him although he wasn't on there (didn't have a phone). My reason was that he became very sentimental as he developed dementia, and my mom used to read him the posts and show him and they made him really happy.

I don't give a fuck whether it looked "performative" to anybody else. My dad liked it, and he has precious little in his life that made him happy by that point.

Don't rush to judgement - you don't always know the ins and outs of somebody else's experience.

Yeah, fucking insane to miss your mom and want to publically celebrate how great she was.

Jesus. Have a heart!

Gosh yes my fb feed was absolutely full of these today.

Agreed totally harmless x

My mum passed way in January. I posted a face book status saying I missed her.

I’m quite happy to be labelled an attention seeking nut job. At least I’m not an un empathetic cunt face.

exactly that. Unless you post on your mums page and she will actually see it looks cute. I don’t post anything else on fb, not even to my partner’s page. I show appreciation in person :)

My mum passed away on this day anyway and has a Facebook page, so I am sure she won’t see it 😢

I often put up a photo of me and my Mum on FB on Mother’s Day. She’s been dead nearly 13 years and was shit at FB even when she was alive 😂

But I miss her and I think grief can sometimes make you feel lonely. Sometimes you really feel the need to remind the Universe that this special person once existed- (not that I have the whole Universe on my FB of course). Lots of my FB friends knew my Mum. Lots of them will see my posts and write comments about moments they shared, and enjoy seeing the photos of their friend/auntie/teacher. People talk about her fondly and that helps to keep her ‘alive’ for me.

Sharing these photos and a few brief words doesn’t cause any harm to anyone, so I’ll keep doing it. Anyone who finds it silly or cringey can scroll past, unfollow me or unfriend me. Easy.

My mum’s in her 80s and she’s chronically online! She has Instagram and Facebook and is constantly on them both.

However, it’s also perfectly possible that people are posting about their mums on Instagram because social media is about sharing one’s thoughts, and their mum is what they were thinking of on Mother’s Day. Also, a lot of people are just, y’know, proud of their mums and want to share that with their friends.

It’s entirely harmless and usually a heartfelt and very genuine expression of their personal thoughts about their mum. No need to be all bitter and angry about it. It’s affecting you in no way whatsoever, so just ignore it and pipe down.

FWIW, my mum posted an absolutely lovely picture and some equally lovely words about my dad on Facebook on this week for their wedding anniversary. He’s not going to see it because he died recently. Amazed to see there are people on here who’d sneer at her for wanting to share the fact that she loves and misses a man she was married to for more than sixty years. I’ll certainly be thinking of my dad on Father’s Day this year, and I might mention that on social media - because social media is for sharing what’s on your mind and also because I’m really bloody proud to be his daughter.