Mother's Day

[Toooldforthisshit49]

Mother's Day, I have 2 adult kids in their early 30's received a text message from both with Happy Mothers Day, no cards. I'm actually not sure why I'm so disappointed, they were brought up seeing me organise card & present for my mum, my DH used to take them shopping when they were little for cards and maybe a bunch of flowers. One could definitely have called as they're local the other is away for work. They are fully aware that I appreciate a card but don't seem to bother, they are the same with Father's Day and I know my DH gets disappointed when no card or sometimes no acknowledgement of the day. I just don't understand why they can't even organise a card on time , my youngest asked in their message if my card had arrived - no because you clearly didn't organise it in time and receiving it possibly mid week is some what pointless -the day has passed. Maybe I just need to lower my expectations and realise that no matter how they were brought up they're not going to change. I bought myself flowers when I picked up some shopping

I don’t think it’s how they were brought up. My three in 30’s haven’t sent a card and I’ve found it hard not to be upset but like you, I got three texts first thing. They know I’m a big card sender, Christmas, Easter, Driving test, New home, New job etc. There’s no Dad and hasn’t been since they were tiny so no one else to remind them. Cards are expensive, so are stamps and the post is unreliable nowadays. I chose some rose bushes online which one of them organised for me to get from them. I think we have to ackowledge that young people don’t do cards. It’s not their fault or anything unkind I’m sure but it’s hard and I have struggled a bit and bought myself my favourite wine and chocs.
Don't take it personally. If you know they love you, and they’re kind and supportive that should be enough, says I who admits to waivering at times to cope with the hype.

Tell them.

@tripleginandtonic there's no point in telling them, we've had conversations regarding how I enjoy receiving a card in the past but it falls on deaf ears but maybe I need to stop running around to make sure they get birthday cards, presents in time for their day.