Do you say happy Mother’s Day to your MIL ?

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If you’re not going to see her ?

Yes and DH signs the card and present from both of us.

He rang her this morning and I asked him to pass the phone to me before he hung up, so I could have a quick chat.

I did because we popped round as DH got her a card and present. She said it back.

No. But then I wouldn’t say it to anyone who isn’t my mother. I love my MIL, and get on better with her than I do my own mother. I just wouldn’t wish her happy Mother’s Day because it wouldn’t really occur to me.

I did because we’re with her, I wouldn’t if we weren’t. My DM is irreplaceable even though she’s no longer here.

I used to, always, but not anymore. Her and DH always had a difficult relationship due to her kicking him out when he was a teen to move a BF in. She is a massive snob and looks down on everyone. NC is a blessing tbh.

Do you mean nobody is seeing her or just the dil's not seeing them?

Dh will go and see her this evening but I'm not going and nor will I be calling her to wish her a Happy Mother's Day, there's no animosity but she's not my Mum.

If dh couldn't go then he would ring and wish her a HMD.

Yes. When we were married I would have text and called her, same for my Gran in law, I would have made her gifts and cards. Not since we divorced though sadly.

We always went round on mother's day as ds was an only child. Its just another day. Would feel awful if she was alone. Though its now many years since she died and I'm glad we did this.

Wishing someone a Happy Mother's Day doesn't mean anything other than 'I hope you have a happy Mother's Day'.

It has nothing to do with seeing them as your own mum or replacing her.

Yeah I do.

If I didn't see her then no. I wouldn't call to say it.

If she was coming to ours for a meal (like today) then yes I did.

Nope I don’t tend to see her or speak to her on Mother’s Day. Dh can pop over if he wishes to.

Nope. I love MIL and we get on great. I see her on my own sometimes etc. But she isn't my mum so it would feel really weird for me to say it or to sign DH's card to her.

Why wouldn’t you?

Yes, and we always see both Mums on Mother’s Day.

They are our children’s Grandmothers apart from anything else.

I remind dh to ring her and wish her a happy Mother’s Day. He’s brilliant at organising the dc to do something for me, but then forgets his own dm.

No, she has three children of her own who can wish her happy mother's day.

My son’s lovely girlfriend just messaged me to wish me a happy Mother’s Day, I am really touched by her thoughtfulness

DH will be phoning her later, so I'll say hello as I normally do. I bought her a little present - not for Mother's Day, just an 'I saw it and thought of you' thing so I will mention it will be coming in the post. I think DH texted her a happy Mother's Day first thing, and she's already thanked him for the card he posted last week.

@ThePoshUns+That's lovely. I got a text from my Dil and it really made my day.

I expect DH to say it to MIL and I say it to my DM. We both write our own names in the other mum’s card though. If I saw MIL, I’d say it to her and she’d say it to me as the mother of her grandchildren.

My MIL is a wonderful woman though and I’m very lucky.

Well my SIL ( not her DD ) wished it to me and MIL on family group. We are the two mums in the group so I didn’t know if it comes across hostile if I don’t wish it to MIL.

I just wished happy Mother’s Day on the group. Why not I guess.

My amazing DIL always sends me a Mother's Day message, in addition to the card from my DS. I always send her a mother’s day card - she a wonderful mother to my DGC.