To have cried when my friend offered to take me out for my birthday?

[TheOliveReader]

I’m turning 33 this week and I’ve been going through a bit of a difficult time recently. A close friend of mine knows some of what’s been going on.

She called me today and said she’d like to take me out for a meal and drinks for my birthday, her treat. Of course I said yes and thanked her but I suddenly started crying on the phone. She was very kind about it and even laughed a little and said she knows things have been tough and thought it would be nice to celebrate my birthday properly.

Now I feel a bit silly and slightly embarrassed about crying like that. AIBU or is that actually a fairly normal reaction when someone shows you kindness during a hard time?

Has anyone else ever had that moment where someone’s kindness just completely caught you off guard and you ended up crying?

I think it’s perfectly normal to cry when someone is really nice and kind to you @TheOliveReader
Happy Birthday for when it comes and I hope you enjoy your meal out with your friend.

I think you have a beautiful friend and wish l had one like her, you must be special to her it shows she cares a lot for you, this is why you felt free to cry.

l am sorry you are going through a bad time and hope things change soon xx

Of course YANBU. Your friend did a lovely thing and I hope you have a wonderful day out.

Perfectly normal, especially when you are going through a hard time.
Happy birthday and have a lovely meal.

It's a normal reaction for some, yes.

Have a great time.

My mum died of cancer when I was 23, just before the Xmas. We really struggled through that. When Easter came round my friend bought me an Easter Egg as she wasn’t sure whether my dad or brother would - brother was away in the forces and dad didn’t think it was a big deal. I cried like a baby.

Completely understandable. How lovely of her!

Ah she sounds lovely and don’t worry the crying is fine, go out have a few drinks and laugh about it, I hope you both have a great time!

Totally natural and fine to cry! I’m sure it touched your friend’s heart 🩷

Perfectly normal. Have a lovely birthday 🎊🎉

@TheOliveReader , I don’t think it is silly to have got emotional. I personally think that unless the birthday person isn’t remotely bothered , that all birthdays should be celebrated .
It should be your special day and those that love / care for you should celebrate it with you, if they can .

My life hasn’t been fantastic recently and I also get emotional at times . I felt myself getting teary this week when a health professional took some time to listen to me on a phone call about one of my Dc !
Hope you have a lovely birthday celebration with your friend and that you get the chance to spoil her too on her birthday .