I’ve been in my job for a few years now and I’m starting to get the feeling they don’t really want me there. A few things have happened during my time that just don’t sit right with me, but I don’t know if these are the sort of things that happen in workplaces and you just have to get on with it.
On my first day in the job, one of my colleagues who I had met at one of the interviews, told me that I wasn’t the first choice and that the team manager had preferred someone else.
I tried to put that to the back of my mind and just focus on doing a good job.
Fast forward to when I was on maternity leave. I tried to arrange some keep in touch days with my manager at the time, but my messages were ignored so they never actually happened.
Before returning, I requested some flexible working arrangements. These were agreed in an email, but when I actually came back my manager said she had changed her mind and suggested I go part-time instead if I wanted flexibility. At that point it was too late to have that conversation as my DC was already booked into full-time nursery and we had paid for it.
There have also been a couple of occasions where I’ve been forgotten on important team messages, particularly when more senior people were involved, which meant I didn’t get credit for things I had worked on.
For context, I’ve never had any negative feedback about my work.
I now have a new manager, old manager still works with us but has a more senior role. My relationship with the new manager is very good, but I still don’t feel comfortable raising this with them.
Am I being oversensitive, or do these things sound a bit off?