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AIBU to think we need stricter action on children and phones?

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Hopelessinhomecounties · 14/03/2026 18:45

Went for a walk with my DS last week and found myself reminiscing about summer holidays growing up — no cash and no phone so - out on our bikes, in the park, and one shared landline between the whole family. You just went outside because there was nothing else to do.
He went quiet then said: “I wish I’d grown up when you did. It sounds really fun.”
It broke my heart a little.
When I said he could still do those things, he told me the problem is everyone’s on their phones even when they’re together. On a school camping trip, they all sat around the campfire in silence — scrolling. Nobody talked.
And this is just the small stuff.
Because underneath all of it — the average age a child in the UK first sees pornography is now 13. 10% have seen it by age nine. Half of all children exposed had seen it by 11.
AIBU to think we all need to do better?
Government: get on with the ban like Australia. Stop stalling. Real age verification, not half-measures.
Schools: ban phones. Full stop. Not “discouraged.” Not “in bags.” Gone. The camping trip story alone should tell you everything you need to know.
Parents: are not powerless. No phones at night. Screen time limits. Know what kids are watching. Being the “strict parent” isn’t something to apologise for — it’s protecting the kids.
Three simple asks. None of them radical. All of them overdue.
It’s too slow. Way too slow.

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NotAFabergeEgg · 14/03/2026 19:22

Have you come across the Smartphone Free Childhood movement?

"Smartphone Free Childhood is a movement of families standing together to delay smartphones and social media – turning isolation into collective strength.

Together we’re giving children back what truly matters: time to play, space to grow, freedom to be.

Because childhood should be shaped by families and communities, not algorithms."

https://www.smartphonefreechildhood.org/

Smartphone Free Childhood

We’re united for childhood: Join the growing movement of parents who believe childhood’s too short to be spent on a smartphone. Smartphone Free Childhood isn’t just a campaign – it’s a culture shift.

https://www.smartphonefreechildhood.org

AzureLurker · 14/03/2026 19:49

Pupils in my school are not allowed phones in class, and yet it is a constant battle, totally disruptive. They are addicted. Often it's texting with parents.

Hopelessinhomecounties · 15/03/2026 00:42

I have but I feel like there’s not a cohesive agenda. Where schools - government AND parents come together . Lots of things need to come together soon to fix the problem

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Hopelessinhomecounties · 15/03/2026 00:44

Great group though. smartphone free childhood - they can’t do it on thier own. - they need wider support from schools, parents and government

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CountryCountess · 08/05/2026 14:35

We are also promoting Smartphone Free Childhood in our community but worried as my son transitions to secondary this year. We may go brick phone route but definitely not smartphone. It saddens me seeing children in the park hanging off the zipline/swing with a phone in their hands.

You can change things - I would collect all phones on a camping trip and be the contact point for parents if need be. I don't understand why parents/communities think this is a good way to bring up children? Govt are delaying due to pressure from the Tech companies - they need their investment.

Like smoking - we have to de-normalise and discourage this behaviour.

Ablondiebutagoody · 08/05/2026 14:39

That school sounds shit. DS has never been allowed to take a phone on a residential trip. Primary or secondary.

LottieMary · 08/05/2026 14:44

Schools now have to implement a phone ban; if they haven’t done so yet then ask when they’re doing it.

most of what you describe is parents choices around phone use during leisure time

LondonSymphony · 08/05/2026 14:48

Fully agree. It’s really dismal. Thing is though, if parents all decided they weren’t having them, that would be that. Unfortunately screens have become surrogate parents.

Dinotruxagain · 08/05/2026 14:51

Mine doesn't have a phone at all, hes 9, far too young for that in my eyes. However, I'd say about half his class has one, which is madness to me!

He has tracker watch, so we know where he is, and he can ring either myself or his dad from it , that's it. ( Nice rural village, old school out in the park childhood!)
I take the phones off his friends when they come in the house, their parents have my number if they need to speak to their child but I have explained kids dont have phones in my house, especially when most of them have completely unfiltered access to the Internet!
How this will play out as he ages out of primary school I dont know. He certainly wont be getting a smartphone from us until he is in his later teens.
But I know we are on a losing battle when other kids have free range.
It's worrying.

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