AIBU to really not like hair bows on grown ups?

[Alcoholtakingherlife]

I don't mind little hair bows on small children, massively dislike Jojo bows though. My pet hate is those huge oversized bows that grown women wear. I never say anything in real life but why? A huge black or navy coloured bow perched at the back of your head? Nope from me. I know it's fashion but they really irritate me to be honest. Anyone else?

Now you say it I’ve seen the cosplay sort of thing, the anime type look, I work in a university so see this often but never noticed the bows in particular because my eyes are drawn to the hello kitty type whole outfit / vibe.

I used to go to a lot of vintage ever / fairs - can’t remember seeing any but maybe I did.

I can’t think that I’ve ever seen the Afro braid look either

Maybe I just don’t notice it.

Why would you be unreasonable to not like them? You don’t have to like everything. Did someone tell you that you did?

I am costal, areas pretty middle class if being general but wider town is a very mixed demographic . Hair accessories are far from being ‘out there’ here.

Going simple today with either a clip or mini scrunchie for a coffee with a mate and a wander around the farmers market in the rain.

I didn’t think it was about actual disabled people, more about the likes of Flora Finching in Little Dorrit who are trying to appear more girlish then they are. Her character was good-hearted but a bit deluded about her age. As far as I am concerned wear what you like.

My 21yo goth ish daughter wears them. She basically dresses in costume every day though.

I wouldn't wear one myself but I think they look rather lovely. My favourite is when a very old lady wears one, with bright lipstick feeling a million dollars 😍

Me neither

I’m talking coastal as in surfing etc, generations of families fishing very much not farmers markets. In my life summer was shorts, tshirt and no shoes as much as possible and winter was jeans, waterproof, hoodie, woolly hat.

Nothing wrong with coffee and farmers markets, we just don’t have a shared experience which is why I haven’t experienced the classically dressed / bows in hair thing other than old uni friends who do the Henley regatta / church type lifestyle (and in fairness farmers markets etc)

Not keen on them at any age and hate baby headbands. Just me

I wear bows like this to work. I get comments daily on it.
It makes me feel feminine and put together.

Hope that helps.

I'm a bow wearer. I love them. I have a dresser drawer full.

Of course you're not unreasonable for disliking them. You can dislike anything you like.

How gross.

I wear bows and I'm most certainly all there.

Honestly why are some women so gross? Always putting each other down for one reason or another but now.. bows?

Get a fucking life

Noticed a lot in Christmas party season. I don’t like them either. Something weirdly childish about them. Or the bows tied onto little bald babies, heaven forbid someone might assume they’re a boy or not care.

Fergie started this back in the 80s

I must admit I’ve never seen anyone in real life wear this sort of thing past primary school age in the U.K. I’ve lived in multiple places. They were really popular when I lived stateside though, especially with the trad, godfearing types in the suburbs and boonies not so much in the cosmopolitan city we lived in. To eaches own

My 26 year old daughter sometimes wears a big bow. I think they look very dated because they remind me that I used to wear them in the 1980s! If I remember rightly they were frequently worn by Sarah Ferguson.

I loathe all headbands and bows on babies.

Wear what you like. We’re all judged all the time regardless of what we wear. In my opinion bows look overly girlish but if you want to wear them as an adult woman and they make you happy carry on.
The readiness on here to be offended is hilarious.

Strong agree. Whatever someone else is wearing or doing, as long as it’s not causing anyone else harm, then live and let live. Is there anything that you’d like to wear or do but feel like you shouldn’t due to your age/other reasons? I encourage you to try just doing it anyway and not giving a flying f what other people think. It’s very liberating.

Along with toe sucking... and a lot of other grotesque shit.

Does anyone remember those padded headbands that were also around at that time? Horsey women used to wear them as substitute tiaras. Sloane Rangers and Hurray Henrys... those were the days. Lol

And then much later, the WOMAD look, when wrap around turbans with your hair poking out of the top were all the rage... Mama Africa.

I don't think I've seen anyone wearing one since the 80s

These types of posts remind me of playground bullies, picking on kids who choose to wear certain things, or look certain ways because the bully has unchallenged issues which are misdirected onto other children:

Jealousy
Low self-esteem
Miserable in life
Stuck up
Nasty
Spiteful

No healthy-minded person looks at another woman and becomes triggered by a hair bow.

I am 40 and have many large bows. I also enjoy dressing alternatively. I dress for what makes me happy. Imagine me looking at whatever you're wearing and making the following post:

"AIBU to be annoyed by the accessory this woman is wearing because everyone else also wears them?"

Like, what harm is it causing you? Does it directly effect you? Why does it make you feel so triggered?

I could turn around and say that women who don't wear accessories and just stick to jeans, tailored trousers, m&s top, little handbag and flats are quite bland&boring because they don't experiment with accessories. However, that isn't dping any good for the support and uplifting of women whom are comfortable in their own skin, doing their own thing.

People like you do not help a woman's cause, in this day and age when we should be supporting one another more than ever. Therefore, please tackle your mental health issues that are giving you unhealthy feelings and behaviours when seeing 'women wearing hair bows'. Women have been wearing hair bows for hundreds of years - Specifically during the high-society periods.

In a nutshell- Mind your own business, none of your concern, just look after yourself.

I'm not offended in the slightest, so no readiness here. It just saddens me that out of all the things women are pitted against each other for, we find ourselves here arguing about bows.

Its genuinely sad and quite pathetic.

👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼 louder for the people in the back!

I like them. I also like those hairbands with a knot in the middle.

I disagree and think they look quite classy on the right person.