To want some family time, as dp is working so much

[mummyrayjay]

Fathers day dp was working so I met him at one clients house, took him to another clients house then collected him after just so ds could spend sometime with him..

Then he thought he had lost his wallet and took it out on me even tho I had nothing to do with his wallet going missing and was trying to be helpful and help him look. He later apoligised for being so rude.

Then today he was off work so I suggested yesterday that we would take ds swimming together as we rarely spend any fun time together as a family.

Then he seemed all tired before it was time to go and got all moody, then said he is not coming and basically started an argument to get out of going.

So ds and I went without dp, then he text me saying he was going to the local pub with his friend...

If he wanted to do that fine but I feel we never spend quality time together, and he is taking all his work stress out on me....

YANBU its a little unfair that he went to the pub instead of spending quality time with his ds.

Exactly, but he tried to make excuses and start an argument, saying I have been moaning at him alot recently which I feel is not the case..

Then he said you can go out when ever you want to, but I wanted us to do something fun all three of us instead of the boring everyday stuff....

It does seem unfair that he didnt go swimming and then disappeared off to the pub.
Sounds like a classic case of work/life balance, and lack of communication. Maybe he was unhappy at having to work all day Sunday. Sit down and talk about it. As long as you are both reasonable and not entrenched in your positions - ie he needs to be prepared to contribute more family time, you need to be prepared to contribute re: work, then there's no reason why you shouldnt sort this out.

Also when i spoke to him on the phone after he went to the pub he said he knows i like to eat early sop what will we do about dinner?

Now he has just text me saying he will be in at 8 and do I want a takeaway or will i have eaten by then... i don't think i will bother getting back to him, he is being out of order