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SENCO coordinator called - child struggles socially

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RealReginaPhalange · 12/03/2026 22:35

I have a meeting on Monday but i am a bit worried. What to expect and what school or us can implement to help my ds. He is in a reception. He often plays by himself, but not always, doesnt get some social cues, struggle with noise and being overwhelmed when too much is happening, have a hard time to join in an activities sometimes. Personally i dont think he is on the spectrum or have adhd or anything. He has good phases and not so good, i know he struggles with noise and doesn’t know how to go up to his friends in a class and play together and gets really lost when he is rejected by peers.

he already gets to wear noise cancelling headphones and eats lunch in a “quiet room “ with few other kids.

what to expect? Asking because i am little worried and i am not british so not a clue how it works nowadays

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fashionqueen0123 · 12/03/2026 22:37

What makes you think he’s not on the ASD spectrum? Don’t worry. They are there to help and ask for ideas and give suggestions to help your little boy :) they might ask what he’s like at home or with family.

dizzydizzydizzy · 12/03/2026 22:44

I would just go to the meeting witb an open mind. I would assume they are trying to help your child. From what you describe, it sounds like neurodivergence is a possibility. However. If could just be the he is sensitive. Is he summer-born?

If your DC does have some form of neurodivergence, their life will be far better with early intervention. I’m neurodivergent and am now too ill to work. That illness was caused at least in part due to the stress of living with undiagnosed and untreated ADHD and autism.

RealReginaPhalange · 12/03/2026 23:12

i am very glad they called and will do my best to support them and to support my ds of course.

he doesnt have repetitive behaviours, no lack of eye contact, no extreme focus on certain topics, no speech delays, no motor skills delays. Hit all the milestones easy and early. Is in a top reading group. He has an empathy (has a small brother and is amazing taking care of him), he is very independent, funny and bright. I could go on. Yes he gets overwhelmed when its too noisy and sometimes struggle socially with friends, but them seeing it as more than age related issues made me worried

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Coffeeandbooks88 · 12/03/2026 23:17

Not all autistic kids lack eye contact or have all those traits.

It sounds very possible your son is ND by the way.

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