Aibu to ask how people get away from an abusive marriage?
to cut a long story short I’m in a mess. I know now my husband is a narcissist (I’ve researched it extensively) and I’m annoyed with myself as I’ve let him cut me off from everyone. I’ve been married to him for 20 years, with him for 28. Our daughter (19) escaped to uni this year. When she was a baby, he moved away to a different country to live what has turned out to be a rural nightmare, because it was his dream to bring up his child in the countryside . After a lot of rows (when my daughter moved up to secondary school) I was allowed to get a part time job and he makes sure a use every penny on shopping every week.
I have managed to put away bits here and there over the years and have a very small amount of savings (we are talking a couple of hundred). He is always saying he has no money but manages to buy alcohol every weekend. (He runs his own business)
I’m sat typing this in the fading light as he switched off the electricity because I asked him not to take a bar of chocolate I had bought for our daughter out of a box I’d put together for her , so he launched into a big rant about how if he can’t have that, as he pays the electricity bill I’m not allowed to use the electricity.
I would love to know how other women get out of these situations as I’ve tried to get full time work but there isn’t much where I live, and rent on property is around €1500 a month. How do people do it? I feel defeated at this point.
we dont own our house, we rent so no assets either to split.