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What would you think about this email from school? Sudden change of class teacher.

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Junglemoon · 12/03/2026 17:22

We had an email yesterday evening from our (primary age) child's headteacher saying that his class teacher Mr Smith had left and that as of tomorrow his teacher would be Mrs Jones. No further details as to what on earth was going on, the email was literally three sentences.

Mrs Jones has been teaching them the last couple of days but our son was told and believed that Mr Smith was just off ill. He and most of his class were very upset in school this morning that there would apparently be no chance to say goodbye to Mr Smith, who is much loved by the children. Neither the children nor the parents were given any notice of this or any preparation.

On top of this the headteacher and the deputy head are apparently away at a conference and unable to answer phone calls or answer any questions and none of the other staff appear to know anything about the issue. The student counsellor was in the classroom this morning trying to reassure the children but she had no answers for them or anyone else.

Some of the parents have phoned and emailed (we are in contact with each other) to express concern and unhappiness about how abrupt this has been and how little information we've been given and the head has replied to an email from one father saying that Mr Smith had left suddenly and she couldn't provide any further details.

Obviously my mind is going all over the place. I can think of a few things that could be sudden and confidential, but if it was something that had to do with the children's safety, the school would have to inform us, wouldn't they? If something awful has happened to Mr Smith I suppose we wouldn't be owed that information but it does seem very hard on the children to just be like 'Mr Smith is gone, you won't see him again, Mrs Jones will be your teacher now'. Which is all they got.

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CocoaTea · 18/03/2026 09:34

Junglemoon · 12/03/2026 17:38

Previously when teachers have left they have given the children some notice and said goodbye. It's not the end of the world at all when a teacher moves on but I don't think it's strange for the kids to be upset at getting no transition. They are only 8 and at that age your teacher can be a bit of a hero to you.

We have had a good relationship with Mr Smith and I know he cares about the children so I find it hard to believe he would choose to go in the middle of the school year and not say goodbye to them, so if it's not likely to be anything disciplinary (I'm not familiar with these procedures) then I suppose it is most likely to be a health issue. I know that's none of my business.

You sound so self absorbed.

What if she has been in an accident or has been taken ill? What if she died?

Why do you feel so entitled to a formal notice in advance?

Teachers are human beings too and life happens to them as well.

Snaletrale · 18/03/2026 09:35

if your child is upset (rather than you) your child could make a nice card saying they miss him, ask the school to send it to him and then move on. These things happen.

SpringIsSpringing2026 · 18/03/2026 09:58

CaptainMyCaptain · 18/03/2026 08:32

I think my opinion matters because I know a few teachers who have had to leave suddenly, including myself, and none of us have been any danger to pupils. In all cases it has been sickness related, mainly mental health. My point, and the point several others (experienced teachers) are trying to make is that the reasons are nobody else's business and indicating that one person is not a threat to children then not mentioning that about someone else suggests that they are a threat. I'm not going to bother trying to explain it to you again.

I'll just add that my last Head Teacher would have been unlikely to say anything nice about me as he was the cause of my issues after I had been at that school for 27 years and was nearing retirement anyway (therefore expensive and easily replaced by a newly qualified teacher). My GP was incredibly kind and said he had seen this happen to teachers many times.

Edited

I don't need you to explain anything or be so patronising. Your opinion might mean something if you had read what I actually wrote, but you didn't.

I'm not going to bother trying to explain it to you again

🤣🤣🤣 Great!

FrippEnos · 18/03/2026 13:18

SpringIsSpringing2026 · 18/03/2026 07:58

Good, glad you accept it's only your opinion.

not sure what you find unacceptable,

Well, I think that has been handled really badly, of course the teacher is entitled to privacy, but the young children are entitled to some kind of explanation when a person they are in close contact with isn't going to be there any more & some kind of closure ...
they could have had some child friendly explanation & had prepared an appropriate activity as a way of saying good bye' if he couldn't do it in person, an adult suddenly disappearing is unsettling for children. They're not robots. Even if he has been 'let go' the children could have been given the opportunity to make a card saying good bye & writing a few words about their favourite memory etc.If he's been 'let go' due to a work issue, or he's left for a personal reason where's the harm in the cards?
its highly unlikely, but even if he has turned out to be a thoroughly rotten apple, the school could have just kept or disposed of the cards. .
It's is incredibly cold to say the kids just need to be resilient or 'get over it'. They're entitled to have feelings too! & resiliance isn't built by cruel & thoughtless behaviour

don't know what you find unacceptable. But whatever, it's only your opinion so it really doesn't matter.

The problem is that the school could get in to trouble with parents complaints if they allow the pupils to make cards for someone who is found to be a"throughly rotten apple".

Cosyblankets · 18/03/2026 14:06

portvfs · 18/03/2026 08:45

I was thinking stress and overwork. Meaning the school isn’t treating its teachers well.
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Again though. It's not always down to this. I've seen it happen many times. I have personal experience of this in that my settlement agreement was due to very sad personal circumstances that were nothing directly to do with work.
But yes i agree if there are several it's likely to be work related

purpleheartsandroses · 18/03/2026 16:18

I left in the middle of the day once. Sent my class to lunch telling them we'd be doing xyz this afternoon. Had a terrible phone call from hospital over lunchtime. Left and didn't return for 2 months, and even then only PT and quit for good a few weeks later.

portvfs · 18/03/2026 16:22

Cosyblankets · 18/03/2026 14:06

Again though. It's not always down to this. I've seen it happen many times. I have personal experience of this in that my settlement agreement was due to very sad personal circumstances that were nothing directly to do with work.
But yes i agree if there are several it's likely to be work related

Yes good to keep an open mind but she asked me what I would immediately assume and this is it

NeverDropYourMooncup · 18/03/2026 21:05

portvfs · 18/03/2026 16:22

Yes good to keep an open mind but she asked me what I would immediately assume and this is it

You do need to rethink this approach.

Plenty of us on this thread have given you reasons why making assumptions depending upon the presence of a comment or not is completely useless - you're instantly assuming wrongdoing on the part of people who have made whistleblowing disclosures, instigated employment tribunal proceedings due to discrimination, reported maladministration or misconduct, given witness statements to police about somebody, had a spouse arrested, had to flee domestic violence (and anything said could help an abuser track down the victim), simply put their back out the weekend before their notice period ends and many, many other circumstances.

portvfs · 18/03/2026 21:16

NeverDropYourMooncup · 18/03/2026 21:05

You do need to rethink this approach.

Plenty of us on this thread have given you reasons why making assumptions depending upon the presence of a comment or not is completely useless - you're instantly assuming wrongdoing on the part of people who have made whistleblowing disclosures, instigated employment tribunal proceedings due to discrimination, reported maladministration or misconduct, given witness statements to police about somebody, had a spouse arrested, had to flee domestic violence (and anything said could help an abuser track down the victim), simply put their back out the weekend before their notice period ends and many, many other circumstances.

I just know too many teachers who’ve been bullied out/ given up to not automatically assume this until proven otherwise. Surprised you’re calling me out for taking the teachers side - are you slt by any chance? 😂😂

NeverDropYourMooncup · 19/03/2026 16:03

portvfs · 18/03/2026 21:16

I just know too many teachers who’ve been bullied out/ given up to not automatically assume this until proven otherwise. Surprised you’re calling me out for taking the teachers side - are you slt by any chance? 😂😂

SLT? Good God, no.

Ooooookay · 28/04/2026 00:15

My first concern would be he was unwell or someone close to him was.
I am very fond of my children’s teachers and would be sad if I didn’t get the chance to say goodbye and thank them for all they have done for them and would be really upset if they were very ill or anything else had happened to them.
Im also sad to read that this concern would be interpreted as nosy.

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