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Awful recruitment agency or am I just too sensitive 😢

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user1471867483 · 11/03/2026 22:59

I am currently unemployed and I registered with a particular recruitment agency just before Christmas. I either text or email this recruiter to 'check in' and let him know my availability about every week. He hasn't done much to find me work, but Monday he contacted me about a role for two months. I told him I can only work to 4pm each day (due to new personal commitments) and said I can start the role in a week's time. Like I said, I've waited 4 months for work from him! He told me he'd put me forward for that role and "I'll work my magic" regarding my leave time each day and start date, he said. Ten minutes later, I emailed asking for the job description (which I think they have to provide?) and reaffirmed my start date and 4pm finish time (I like we everything in writing). In the meantime he never emailed me the job description and I never heard back from him until yesterday. I signed on yesterday late afternoon and by the time I got home, he had left a voicemail at the time I was signing on, asking me to call him. It got a little late and I emailed to say I'd call him the next morning. I rang him this morning and was met with a very abrupt recruiter. He argued with me saying that when he rings me he expects me to pick up my phone right away and speak. I told him I'm a very busy woman with many interviews. I reminded him he told me he'd work his magic and he said jobs move quick and I need to work quick with him. He told me the job has now gone and I said, "Well, it wasn't to be". I told him I needed everything put in writing too including the job desc but he went on and on basically making me feel guilty and argued saying my name about four times like he was arguing with his gf or something. His voice rose and he wouldn't stop arguing. I can come and go as I please? I felt controlled. Am I wrong? There wasn't any respect for me at all.

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user1471867483 · 13/03/2026 07:25

Thank you everyone for taking the time to read and answer my question 🌹

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Arthurnewyorkcity · 13/03/2026 07:52

With agencies and temp work, providing the hours fit you say yes then worry about what it entails afterwards. You are making it very difficult but he was unnecessarily rude and unpleasant so probably best you left

user1471867483 · 13/03/2026 08:01

Arthurnewyorkcity · 13/03/2026 07:52

With agencies and temp work, providing the hours fit you say yes then worry about what it entails afterwards. You are making it very difficult but he was unnecessarily rude and unpleasant so probably best you left

And left I have. I don't even get spoken to at the job centre like that. They're lovely with me there.

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Butterknife · 13/03/2026 10:25

user1471867483 · 13/03/2026 08:01

And left I have. I don't even get spoken to at the job centre like that. They're lovely with me there.

I think it’s inevitable your relationship will not continue with this recruiter - he’s been unpleasant and you’ve been awkward - maybe have a think about how you can improve your behaviour because if you don’t it’s going to be very hard for you to get a job in this market

user1471867483 · 14/03/2026 23:59

Butterknife · 13/03/2026 10:25

I think it’s inevitable your relationship will not continue with this recruiter - he’s been unpleasant and you’ve been awkward - maybe have a think about how you can improve your behaviour because if you don’t it’s going to be very hard for you to get a job in this market

I don't need to think about my behaviour - I've already binned the agency.

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user1471867483 · 15/03/2026 10:00

My self respect isn't for sale.

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