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What would you do in this situation, alone in a park at dusk?

50 replies

Colalola · 11/03/2026 22:03

i was in a park walking through with my dog and two teens entered and sat on the bench which I had to walk past to exit. They were making loud noises to get my attention and make me look but I ignored. One then should ‘I’m going to rape you…!’ What would you do?
it was just myself and them in the park. I carried on walking as I was in shock but I’m interested to know what you’d do.

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HurrahWuff · 11/03/2026 22:07

That’s awful. Sorry you had to experience this. I would have done what you did: ignore and get out of there sharpish.

HotRootsAndNaughtyToots · 11/03/2026 22:07

I'd report them to the police.
Either they were "just messing" in which case they need to know how serious what they said was, or its part of escalating dangerous behaviour on their part.
Either way - police.

Createausername1970 · 11/03/2026 22:08

I would have carried on and ignored them as I don't like confrontation and they were probably just being silly gobby teens, thought they were being funny etc. But you never know, so best not to prod the hornets nest.

My friend would have confronted them. She would prod that hornets nest to within an inch, until they had all buzzed off.

Smileysmoke · 11/03/2026 22:08

HotRootsAndNaughtyToots · 11/03/2026 22:07

I'd report them to the police.
Either they were "just messing" in which case they need to know how serious what they said was, or its part of escalating dangerous behaviour on their part.
Either way - police.

This

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 11/03/2026 22:09

I just ignore. Tune them out, pretend I can’t hear. I would report on 101. If it’s identified as a hot spot for bad behaviour, police start dropping in.

BitterTits · 11/03/2026 22:09

I'm a secondary school teacher and sadly, I don't feel surprised that this happened. I would report it to the police in case they have CCTV.

WhatAMarvelousTune · 11/03/2026 22:09

I’d have ignored and got out fast. Then I’d have called the police about the rape threat. Don’t care if they were “joking”.

Bushmillsbabe · 11/03/2026 22:10

If it was possible to record or photo them discretely, I would, but only if it didn't put me at risk. And then report to police. But your priority was getting out of there safely.

outerspacepotato · 11/03/2026 22:11

Let the dog handle it.

I had a collie and a big Shepherd Rottie mix and they did not take kindly to strange men approaching me at night.

Owlcat42 · 11/03/2026 22:14

Ignored them like you did, and then called the police once I knew I was safe. Reporting this kind of behaviour now might prevent another women from having a similar or far worse experience so I think it's important to have zero tolerance (ie do what you can to ensure the police follow it up)

JontyGentooey · 11/03/2026 22:15

I'd have pretended not to hear them, got home as fast as I could and then phoned the police. Make a note of the exact time and anything you can remember appearance/clothing wise.

Police might not do anything, on the other hand your report might be one of several and make them investigate. Please tell them.

switchedoff14 · 11/03/2026 22:16

Createausername1970 · 11/03/2026 22:08

I would have carried on and ignored them as I don't like confrontation and they were probably just being silly gobby teens, thought they were being funny etc. But you never know, so best not to prod the hornets nest.

My friend would have confronted them. She would prod that hornets nest to within an inch, until they had all buzzed off.

Or raped her. It isn’t wise to confront men you’re on your own in a park.

Createausername1970 · 11/03/2026 22:21

switchedoff14 · 11/03/2026 22:16

Or raped her. It isn’t wise to confront men you’re on your own in a park.

I think if they were adult men she might not, but she teaches in the local secondary and doesn't find gobby teens intimidating. She can be quiet scary in her own way.

I assumed from the OP we were talking about school or college aged teenagers not adult men. The OP doesn't specify if they were male or female.

Thesnailonthewhale · 11/03/2026 22:22

Depending on how pissed off IAM I usually walk on by rolling my eyes, sometimes I'll stop.and and "sorry? I didn't hear what you said?" And then if they repeat it I pretend I still can't hear them properly.

Some bloke decided to shout at me across a road to "cheer up love!!", I stopped and said "what? Sorry, did you need something?" And he repeated himself, and I replied again "sorry, didn't hear that, what did you say?" And looking confused. He walked off,.and didn't say anything else.

tutugogo · 11/03/2026 22:31

Would have depended a bit on the dog as to what i would have done, with my boy i would have confronted them because he was super protective and snarly if anyone approached me and couldn’t be distracted by food as he wouldn’t eat anything in the park or from strangers (I know weird dog) whereas a little dog would not have given me confidence

Villanousvillans · 11/03/2026 22:35

I would have left asap and then called the police.

Freeme31 · 11/03/2026 22:38

Report to police

NotnowMildrid · 11/03/2026 22:40

I’d have my German Shepherd on a leash and scare the life out of them.

Copperoliverbear · 11/03/2026 22:47

I would have reported them

SaucepanRattle · 11/03/2026 22:49

I would have called 999 on my phone and carried on walking, reporting the crime as I got myself to safety. It was a crime and it's shocking that teenagers feel emboldened to talk in that way.

Colalola · 11/03/2026 23:56

Interesting! I think I did the right thing in ignoring the teen males. I told my OH who was furious and went over to the park to confront them. Quickly realising they were minors he made them call their parents and one came down. Unbelievably the dad defended his son immediately and said he did not do this and that they are good kids?? After they’d admitted to doing it to my OH before dad anrrived and he looked a fool. He then tried to minimise the whole thing by saying it was a miscommunication- not sure where I misunderstood being threatened to be raped but sure! Bellend. I understand why his kids a creep now.

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SaladSock · 12/03/2026 00:27

I would have ignored it and quickly left. I don't think I would have reported it, or returned to the park, I would have just forgot about it.

ExitPursuedByABare · 12/03/2026 00:32

Good on your DH.

Ladamesansmerci · 12/03/2026 00:35

As someone with a history of sexual assault, I'd have very much freaked out. I honestly would have probably rang 999, and I'd have high tailed it out that park as fast as possible.

Clara27 · 12/03/2026 05:44

Your update about the dad is very depressing. What a role model