I don't know what it's like to cuddle DH

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Everytime we cuddle, it ends up with us having sex

It's not that I'm necessarily complaining, but all I want sometimes are cuddles

We sleep in separate beds. Which is great 😃

But when we cuddle it always ends up the same

Tell him that.

Thanks for sharing!

He definitely needs to know this. You need to have affection that is safe with no expectation of sex in my opinion

Don’t you snuggle up on the sofa and watch tv?

If you want to always have sec then great! If not then you need to tell him that

My ex was like this. No intimacy without it leading to sex. He wouldn't even hold my hand when we were out and about. Eventually it completely put me off him (along with other things of course)

I'm now with the loveliest man who I could snuggle up to all evening. I now realise what I was missing.

No

Are you the OP under a different name?

Yes, same here. All the day to day, moment by moment closeness ended, then so did the sex. He tried to reignite it by grabbing at me randomly throughout the day, as though that was attractive. He sits bolt upright on the sofa. Square and immovable.

No

I have, but it seems as though he can't control himself. It's quite sad.

I just want cuddles

Tell him you want some affection as well as sex.

Cuddle downstairs.

Cuddle after sex.

You can control yourself, presumably? And say ‘no, I don’t want to have sex, let’s just cuddle’?

You don't even cuddle after sex?

Jesus, just the thought of him gives me the major-league ick, wanting to hump you like a horny dog every time you touch him. It'd be a kick in the balls or a bucket of cold water from me, I'm afraid. Time and a place, and all that.

It's ok - @3luckystars already answered for you.

OP, it would appear from your previous threads about your partner (who now appears to be your husband, even though he wanted to leave you and take your children to live with his parents as recently as September and you weren’t then married) that you haven’t been happy with him for years. You hate his parents, you don’t like his friends, a year ago you thought he hated you.

You are clearly very unhappy with him and have been for a long time. Why are you still together? Why did you get married? You don’t appear to have any love for one another. Not that long ago you were upset because he didn’t want sex. This is a dysfunctional relationship in which you seem to just passively put up with his behaviour all the time. You need to leave ffs.

Aww I can understand, it must make you feel like an object sometimes? And not a person, everyone needs to feel loved