Childs party no rsvp

[Nightowl44]

Hi
My ds is having a birthday party in 3 weeks time it will be Easter time so I handed out the invites 5 days ago to give plenty notice as I know families are busy at Easter.

I sent out 33 invites to nursery out of 56 kids as unfortunately couldn't invite them all . I've only had 3 people rsvp and they aren't able to come as have plans . Im worrying no one will come and my ds would be so sad . I've made the mistake of not putting a rsvp by date as its my first time doing a kids party ( wont do this mistake again lol) . I was just wondering how long does it usually take people to rsvp if anyone had advice on it .

Im so upset at the thought of no one coming .I dont mind waiting another week or 2 to find out if people are coming or not as I didnt give a date to reply by . What do I do if they dont rsvp as the group chat we have not all kids have been invited and not all the kids parents are in the group and the ones who are dont ever answer me in the group . Would you chase people at the nursery for reply? And what would I say lol. None of the mums really speak to me i always smile and say hello and ive actually had people blank me ( im not a horrible person im always polite smile and say hello lol .

You are going to have to ask people… thy may not have even found the invite! I would be concerned if it is Easter weekend though that people may be away. But not all. Good luck!

It would have been easier to have a small party with your childs actual friends and personally asked parents if they could make it, I know parents should do the right thing and RSVP but parents must be overwhelmed these daysd with endless invites to parties of children their kids dont even know much about

We can all say what parents should do but real life doesnt work that way

Whatsapp the ones you have invited individually and say something like, "Hi X, you might have seen the invite for Bobby's birthday party on 9th April - just realised I missed off the RSVP date! If you could let me know whether Xchild can make it by 20th March that would be great. Thanks!"

I understand life is busy etc I think its just because if it was me personally I would reply if I can make it or not as its a child's party and I wouldnt want the child to have hardly anyone there and be disappointed if we can make a party i always make an effort to go even though i hate kids parties lol. I invited that amount of children as my son is going to primary 1 with them and he is a social butterfly and plays with everyone. Thought it was a good idea for him to have kids who hes going to p1 with there and would let me get to know the parents aswell as im not from the area have just moved here 2 years ago .

The teacher handed them to parents as they were picking their children up .I seen a few have them in their hand when leaving .
I just dont know what to say to chase them up makes me a bit awkward lol

Yeah couldn't get the hall for any other weekend so have took a gamble for easter weekend really hope it wasnt a big mistake .

Inviting 33 kids for a nursery aged party is nuts OP! What age, 3 or 4? They hardly know each other at that age and definitely don't need a big party. Anyway apologies as that's not what you asked. In my experience parents are rubbish at replying to handwritten invites. They'll be at the bottom of a book bag, or stuck to a fridge to remind them to reply but never will get round to it! I find setting up a new WhatsApp group specifically for the party works really well. Great for reminders, and can be deleted after.

Hard copy invites are nowhere near as effective as WhatsApp as the effort to respond is greater.

I tend to find in our Reception class WhatsApp group any invite that is posted will get something like an immediate 15 responses followed by another 5 over the next 24 hours. 3 will respond a week later and 2 will never respond.

You’ll hear back a week or two before the event. Possibly when the mum’s have checked the nursery bags.

It’ll all come good in the end. There’s usually at least half that can make it.

In my experience, people do take a while to respond, especially without the deadline date to RSVP by. So I wouldn't worry yet, I'm sure there will be some friends to attend.

I'd far rather have an actual invitation than yet another bloody whatsapp group. Give it a few days and then chase OP, some of us aren't great at being organised enough to commit to a date in the future straight away.

I've done 2 parties and included an RSVP date, not one fucker replied. I then spoke to them in the school yard and almost everyone was like 'yeah we can't wait'!
They all turned up, just never thought to actually let me know. I just can't understand people sometimes...
Good luck

I know im crazy inviting that much kids my ds is turning 5 most the kids invited are 4 or 5 its easter holidays so I invited a little extra as I knew alot of people would have plans and was hoping still a decent amount would come . Just can't believe how many people havent replied yet . Its making me anxious and paranoid that im not liked lol or my son which I can't see as hes so kind and fun .

I dont have everyone's contact number to do a whats group to invite them etc or would have done it as easier for reply and to send reminders if need be. Dont want to post in the mums group chat as not all invited ,But also I'm in that many group chats from family friends and other social events etc I know how it feel to try reply to all the groups & my phone pinging every two secs . Just thought paper ones would be easier a simple text yes or no but hasnt gone in my favour yet lol
Will give it more time hopefully its all good in the end if not going to have to put my big girl pants on and start asking at nursery and maybe embarrass myself not knowing who's kid is who's lol.

@CoralOP
I would hate that why would they not think to reply . I think its just rude .

I dont really know all the parents but hoping to catch some at pick up but its hard as its busy and we just go in and collect then walk straight out no one stands about talking .

You handed them out 5 days ago?
Without a reply date. Yes, you are a bit paranoid.

I'm a pretty organised mum but wouldn't have replyed yet.
It's weeks ahead (and I am still sorting plans for seeing family at Easter which seems more important than a child being invited with 32 other children).

Childrens' parties - you get used to the no reply attitude. It's a quite common thing to be discussed on MM.

I know you haven’t invited everyone but that’s absolutely fine and no one will hold it against you so I would post in the group chat and say Hi could those invites to “Jacks” party on “24th April” send me a quick WhatsApp to confirm attendance please 😄 would really appreciate it as I know Easter is a busy time and would like to get the numbers organised asap
Then you will hopefully get some response without having to ask face to face

I've had a couple replies now :)

Don’t panic, my experience is people will respond last minute as (and sorry to be brutal) people often wait to see if they’re doing anything else as a child’s party is lower on the list of priorities. It’s very annoying as it makes it hard to plan but people will come

You’ll find a lot won’t RSVP until very close to the party date. Yes it’s incredibly annoying and no I don’t know why people do this!!