Tell me this is weird, please!

[Saymyname]

Discussing baby names with my SIL. Told her our name for a girl, she basically told us we shouldn't use it. Her reason being because there is a little girl in her family with the same name.

She is my DH's brother's wife. Her family has nothing, nothing to do with us, I've met her mother once and the rest of the family never.

I think she's being really weird but she got all uspet over it, what do you think?

i think you shouldn't discuss babys names with family.
someone always gets upset - usually the person with the least to do with it.

maybe she wants to use that name for a future baby girl

i think otherwise, and even if she is. she is being unreasonable.

am presuming you are pregnant and expecting a girl....

Pregnant, due in 8 weeks and don't know the sex.

She is being weird. And insensitive. I presume you've spent a lot of time choosing a name. Once a name is chosen there is only one appropriate response - "oh, how lovely".

YA so NBU.
Weirdo indeed.....

Totally unreasonable, totally weird, ignore her

DD has the same name as my cousin.. ( although we have changed it legally to her nickname, but it was the same for a good long while.... ) no-one had a problem with it, my mum's closest friends youngest DD has the same name as me. i was immensely flattered that she was named after me

The thing is, I've never even heard of this child in her family before. She's acting like we're doing it on purpose to spite her, what does she expect us to do? Get a list of the names of everyone in her family and make sure we don't pick one of those?

Summat else going on with this bird, I suspect.

YANBU but she is.

Do you think Doodle? I did wonder, she's very controlling and she doesn't like it when the attention isn't on her. I think she's a bit put-out by my pregnancy. She was odd, odd, odd about our wedding too. Tried to take control of little details like suit hire and stuff which were nothing to do with her.

any chance she's pregnant/planning a child and that is "her" name?

Nope. She's just had a little girl and named her something else.

My dss's mum told DH and I that we couldn't use a certain name for a girl when I was pg, as she always wanted a girl with that name. I'd already picked it as a middle name for a girl (I had a boy, so ended up being moot). DH and I thought she was being a bit precious - she's not with anyone, and is adamant that she doesn't want any more kids and is a happy singleton! OK, she might unexpectedly meet someone and change her mind, but surely it doesn't matter that much!
Ignore your SIL, she is as mad as a box of frogs.

My DH's work colleague gave her baby the same name as me becasue she liked my name. She is Chinese and now the baby lives in China.

Should i be cross too?

Ridiculous!

Portblacks - that is lovley.

From bitter experience do not discuss baby names with anyone other than DH until baby has arrive. There will always be someone who hates it.

YANBU, though, she sounds barking.

Is she Jewish? For a lot of Jews, it is considered desirable to name a baby after a deceased relative, but naming a child after a living relative is seen as hostile (this kid is only tenuously a relative, I realise, but perhaps something like this is going on?)

Just don't tell anyone your choice of name until you've had the baby!

unless she has a sentimental attatchment to thye name that shes not telling you about. Either way its insane. Take no notice.

She does sound like a bit of a looper to me.

My mother and her sister-in-law both were pregnant at the same time, both liked the same name and both called their little girls the same same. It has never been an issue at all - and we are cousins! You don't even know this other child.

What is this woman the Queen of all names

I can imagine to her it seems odd, I think really she justs forgets that it's not your family so obviously you don't hear the name and immediatly think of the other person. To out and out say "no, don't use it" is probably abit OTT, but try and think of you had a sister called... Anne and your SIL was going to call her daughter Anne, you'd think "oh, no, there is an Anne already" without really thinking that 'your' Anne is nothing to do with the new Anne so it's not relevant. Yikes - does that make any sense?

Like I suggested the name Caitlin to my mum but my cousins (who I haven't seen in years, different country) daughter is apparently called Caitlin so was 'told' not to.