Husband wants me to think I’m crazy

[Irissnow85]

Husband and I are at opposite ends of the worry scale, and I feel that he tries to bully me out of worrying about anything. I do over worry sometimes I’ll admit it, but it doesn’t mean that everything I express a concern about is automatically wrong. I need to know if today’s incident is me being unreasonable or him…..

we’ve just moved house and my sons trampoline is on a concrete slab in the garden.

Husband puts the jumping bit on the frame but not the safety net around it. Son is wild on the trampoline does flips and throws himself about with abandon.

Husband announces to son he can go on trampoline, I interrupt and say have you put the safety net on the trampoline though as it’s on concrete (son is very accident prone and only had a cut on his head glued at minor injuries very recently) to this husband is all sweating under his breath and storming off.

Really fed up of this trying to make out like I’m a crazed lunatic.

I’m willing to hear if allowing a child to jump on a trampoline placed on concrete without the net they include for safety is crazy though, please tell me the truth.

I have two very close friends who call themselves overthinkers, they have ended up that way because their husbands under think at all, and then get aggressive when it’s pointed out they have put/are putting their children in danger.

Examples I’ve seen with my own eyes,

Not fitting car seat correctly and calling his wife fussy when she refused to let him put their baby in the car. Several times he hasn’t even bothered to strap the child in the car seats and I’ve seen him drive past my home with his child on his lap and unsecured.

He has done the trampoline thing too.

Plonk non swimming toddler in pool with armbands and then laid down on lounger to sleep.

Leaves power tools plugged in and laid around after doing a diy job, doesn’t consider that the children could hurt themselves if they pick them up and start pushing buttons.

Thinks his wife is being silly by not leaving their small child alone with their very large dog.

I’d be overthinking if my child’s father couldn’t be trusted to do basic safety shit.

after 2 broken arms and a broken elbow in this house, there’s no more trampolines.

your husband is being utterly unreasonable. Imagine a child falling out and landing on concrete 😩

Your husband is not fit to be left alone with children.

What a moron.
I know half a dozen children that have really annoying arm breaks that had them out of action for many weeks from a trampoline. Messing and falling off one.

He's a moron.

You sound like a perfectly normal and sensible parent. Of course safety nets should be used on trampolines and of course it’s reasonable to be concerned about safety when swimming and not to want to jet off to the UAE any time soon.

Don’t let him keep gaslighting you into thinking you’re over-protective.