New neighbours. AIBU?

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I’d really like to see if I’m being unreasonable about how I feel about my new neighbours.

I’ve read through lots of people’s posts and I know my neighbours are no way as bad as most but is what I’m experiencing to be expected or not?

New neighbours moved in in January above me in a maisonette flat. The previous above neighbours were 3 women, who’d I hear going out to work, coming home from work, the washing machine on and sometimes some singing and phone calls. All in all, very quiet neighbours. I would barely hear them walking around.

However, since my new neighbours have moved in, it’s clear our schedules are opposite and they sleep during the day and are up from around 2-3pm sometimes until 4am. This means when I go to bed at 9pm all I can hear until the early hours is them walking around, running (the kids), cupboard doors opening and shutting loudly, conversations, just general pottering but it’s so loud because it’s night time and everyone else is quiet and asleep.

I’ve spoken to them before and explained what I could hear (for instance, they just their 1 year whinging constantly all night which I could hear). I explained I could hear all movements, walking, talking, everything and if they could keep it down after 9pm I’d really appreciate it. I explained I didn’t want them to tiptoe about because of me but also, I get up early for work. The husband was really understanding and it was kind of ok for a week or two, still some noise but last week, they were up until 2am - 4am most nights and I’m starting to absolutely resent them.

I want to speak with them again but is this to be expected from upstairs neighbours? I know I was basically blessed with my previous neighbours but is this just the realistic noise you hear from people? Also, I know we have different schedules so I know they shouldn’t be vilified for that.

Any opinions?

yes you’re being unreasonable, people make noises and you’re on different schedules

no you’re not being unreasonable, even though you have different schedules, they should still be quieter from 9pm onwards.

If they seem reasonable record the sound for them and let them hear how bad it is. If not, the council will insist on carpets whether they can afford them or not.

Are they muslim by any chance? I know Muslims observing ramadhan are up at 4am this month

That’s so crazy that happened above you. How sad. Yeah they’re up all hours but from the sounds of things are ok, I guess. I just know the child never really leaves the house which I always find weird.

Yes, the dad goes out. Everyday. But I’ve never seen the mum or child leave. We have a side entrance to our property so I do wonder if they go down there and try to refrain from being seen? It’s odd.

Yes, they are Muslim but they were up at silly o clock before Ramadan

They may have flipped with it being Ramadan. I know my friends who are observing Ramadan are really struggling with the early mornings and eating and praying. They’re exhausted all day. So it kind of makes sense sleeping in the day if they can. Although Ramadan only started on the 13th February, I think.