I don’t know what to do

[Cece8519]

i have been put on antibiotics for a throat infection and spent yesterday in bed. Today I spent the morning in bed and my dh had a party to go to. I said I couldn’t go but feel free to go. He said he would go and be back early. Then he says he wants to go and paramotor from 3pm. This has caused many arguments as we have a 5 and 8 year old and an old house we are renovating. But I said go as I didn’t want a row. It is now 11.30 pm with no phone call. I feel really ignored at I being unreasonable

How worrying. Do you think he may have had an accident? If there is no one you can contact who knows where he is, perhaps phone 101 for advice. I hope he's home soon.

Was it a paramotor party, or has he gone straight from paramotoring to the party? When did you expect him home from the party?

I hope he's okay, but shit of him to leave you with the children when you're feeling unwell even if he'd planned it all in advance.

The paramotoring was independent to the party. That is just his hobby.

He said he would be home early from the party. It started at 7

Have you messaged him?

Have you text him? Just to say ‘are you ok? You said you’d be back early and I’m starting to worry’. Do you have any friends at the party you could text and just double check he’s there and safe?

Have you tried calling or texting him? If you have and he's not answering or responding, I would be very unhappy (even more unhappy than I would be at being left to look after the kids while ill so he could party!)

It's unfair of him to promise to be home at a reasonable time and not do so, I would ensure he makes up for it tomorrow. If you have a throat infection you'll need to rest in my experience, or you'll just prolong the time it takes for you to feel back to 100%. A lie in and a lazy day on the sofa for you tomorrow, while he takes the kids out and does something energetic to tire them out!

Is that something he does alone or with others? If others, then you know nothing has happened to him there as the police would have been knocking on your door by now.

I think he’s probably got the hump if you’ve fallen out, he’s got to the party, started having fun and thought Sod going home early, I’m out out. If you can confirm he’s at the party and quite safe, then I’d go to bed and deal with it in the morning.

Essentially, he's gone to the party, is having a great time and has thought 'I'm having a good time, I'm not leaving early'. Or has thought 'I'll stay another hour, then go' and the hour comes/goes and he's still there. I doubt very much he's come to harm.

I hope you just went to sleep.

You are unwell and need to rest you knew where he was. I'm not sure why you needed him home from a party ?

Im not sure why people post on here because their partner is out, when it's all been agreed. Get on with your day/night and let them on with theirs.

He was fine in the end. Thank you for your comments