Should I change?

[Orangegoose]

Me and partner have not had sex for 8+ months. We sleep in seperate rooms due to me co sleeping with our baby. I'm exhausted and sex just doesn't even register in my mind. I am worried we are drifting into 'roommate' territory, but he never tries to initiate sex and neither do I? Am I being unreasonable that I'm now getting a bit annoyed that he doesn't even seem bothered? I've tried talking to him about it and he said its fine and we are both tired?
Should I be worried?

You're not bothered about sex but are annoyed that he's also not bothered? Maybe he is just trying to respect your wishes and not be pushy.
8 months is a long time, especially if there hadn't been any intimacy at all. Do you cuddle or kiss? I'd probably start making more of an effort in the relationship. Could you put baby in moses basket and have a couple of hours in bed together chatting or watching a film whilst having a cuddle? Do you have any dates? If you have childcare starting to have dates may be good for the relationship.

Do you want to have sex with him or not?

Yes I'm a bit confused too.

If you want sex or even just a bit of intimacy OP, do you ever try to initiate it?

If you don't particularly want it and nor does he, I think that's much better than one of you pestering the other.

OP this is such a hard thing to navigate after having a baby, especially when you are co-sleeping. I think rather than focus on the sex, try initiate some romance and spark between you. Could you plan a date night (even at home if you don't want to or can't go out? We do this when we feel we are hitting a slump or drifting apart. Phones away for the night, stay up later than usual, ban baby talk! 😅 recently we even got those question cards for couples and we loved it just to connect again.

You say "I'm exhausted and sex just doesn't even register in my mind." And then "I'm now getting a bit annoyed that he doesn't even seem bothered"..... if he did try initiate it, would you even want it? Would you engage or say no?

Do you want him to suggest it so you get to have sex without initiating it or so you can turn him down? It’s a confusing post. If you want to have sex then suggest it. If you don’t surely you’re glad he’s not unhappy about it.