Hello
Me and DP have in my opinion silly arguments. He thinks it isnt the topics that are silly its how I handle them. I think its how he handles them.
For example, I feel he is always pointing out better ways I could do things. He thinks I am always defensive and dont appreciate him.
Last week, I asked him to offer to make dinner or do bedtime for our baby instead of it always being me. He reminded me that while i do bedtime he cleans the kitchen or does washes or some other household chore. I said I know and that we could swap some evenings. The next day he offered to cook dinner. I agreed. He then popped his head into the livingroom 30mins later to tell me he had just wiped down the kitchen units that were disgusting and had to feed the cats so dinner would be a while. I offered to do this, he reluctantly agreed. That evening he seemed annoyed. He said he is annoyed that when he offered to make dinner I didnt pick up any of the work needed done. He feels I am telling him to do more so I can do less. I said that wasnt the case and he should have told me what was needing done.
That evening I was making the bed, he was walking our dog. When he came back he noticed the bedding was on the wrong way. I had only done have at this point. He said it was wrong and started fixing it. I asked how was it wrong as It looked fine. He said it wasnt fine it was wrong. I then got annoyed and said yes okay, you have pointed out it was incorrect but it looked fine to me. He then got annoyed kept telling me to stop arguing with him. I got annoyed told him he was the one arguing. I then told him he was immauture of getting annoyed in the first place. He then grabbed his pillow and started walking out tell me he was going to sleep in spare room. I was holding our 9 month old. I then laughed and called him immature again. He walked in and hit me in the face with his pillow. Afterwards he told me he was sorry but I wont allow him to leave arguments as I usually follow him or have the last word. I told him he has to control his anger he said he is by leaving but by having the last word I drag him back.
We have agreed on a phrase if things get heated and we end discussions but im starting to think we need professional help. He said we dont and I need to stop arguing but he is equally arguing and gets annoyed easily!
Has anyone else had this?
Its stupid arguments. Like the bedding.. he told me 12 year olds make beds better than me. When I said, oh yeah. How would u know? He said me, I was once 12 and made my bed. Its stupid shit like that.
Thanks.
Dont jump to say break up. Im trying to decide what's best.
Thanks