So called ‘friend ‘

[TheOpalFox]

what I thought was a really good friend
keeps cancelling and not turning up when we agree to meet :(
agreed to meet for a drink. Said yeah leaving now so I did too! An hour later nothing. Reading my messages and saying nothing back? After agreeing to meet me then don’t turn up!

They’re not a friend then, quite simple. I would be so annoyed that they said they’re on their way and never came or answered you. Friendship would be over unless they got into an accident which I doubt

@TheOpalFox when someone shows you who they are, the first time, believe them

"keeps cancelling and not turning up"

You are absolutely, not important, to her.

Walk away.

They're not your friend. Delete and move on, that's rubbish. You deserve better.

What’s her partner like? Is it possible she lives with a controlling moron ?

PPs are right, she’s not a friend you are not important to her. But what is more important is for you to raise your bar, not just what you will tolerate from people but the kind of people you want to spend time with. Choose good people. If nothing else she is incredibly rude

Please tell us you’re not going to meet her again?

That’s not a friend… that’s horrible. I thought you were going to say cancelled last minute but to say leaving now , then ghost without a message is truly disrespectful. You need to find your anger now and say enough is enough.

Would you let a date treat you like that - hopefully not so don’t let a so called “friend”

There sounds like there's something very significant going on in her life be it mental health wise, possible domestic abuse or something else. I'm certain it's not a straight forward situation by the sound of it.

Be patient, don't take it personally and definitely don't assume the worst. Get in touch, say you hope things are ok and be there as and when she's ready to talk.

Do you ever ask her what's happened when she doesn't turn up?

Is she in a controlling relationship. If not she's a shitty friend.

She text me saying she droppes her phone in the sink and it’s only just turned on !!! Haha i was not born yesterday

Things like lol I forgot usually or lol soz something come up
this morning it’s ’ I dropped my phone in the sink lol ‘

It’s usually like soz I forgot or soz something come up lol
today it’s ’ I dropped my phone in the sink ‘

It doesn't sound like she gives a shit about you from her behaviour.

When I drop my phone in the sink it physically prevents me from putting my shoes and coat on.

It also physically prevents me from opening the front door, walking through it, and closing the front door.

Time to drop your friend in the sink and leave her there.

What's the history of this friendship? How long have you known her, what sort of things did you do or talk about together? I just wonder if she's ever been a friend or actually just good company to be around?

This sounds like bullying - knowing you will turn up and feel shit because she has lied to you. I’d block her.

So she couldn’t care less and tells you silly lies. Don’t bother with her, she’s not a friend. I agree , it’s a form of bullying to treat you like this.

I'd text her "Had enough of this shit. Have a nice life, don't bother me ever again"

One to move on from. Fancy telling you she’s left work to meet you, then not turn up. That’s nasty. There are better people out there.

This but add a lol at the end.

"No you didn't."