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Reply to an email accidentally sent to me or not?

27 replies

stilloverthinking · 06/03/2026 16:46

A former colleague sent me an email which obviously wasn't intended for me. Nothing embarrassing, it's just an email asking for opinions from colleagues, but it clearly wasn't intended for me.

Should I reply to it and let him know, or just leave it?

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lottiegarbanzo · 06/03/2026 16:48

Of course let them know, so they can send it to the right person.

Itstimeforachangeagain · 06/03/2026 16:49

Yes I would let them know.

janietreemore · 06/03/2026 16:53

y that will enable your colleague to send it correctly.

stilloverthinking · 06/03/2026 20:04

lottiegarbanzo · 06/03/2026 16:48

Of course let them know, so they can send it to the right person.

It was sent to about five people, including me....I very obviously wasn't supposed to get it.

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Shedmistress · 06/03/2026 20:07

stilloverthinking · 06/03/2026 20:04

It was sent to about five people, including me....I very obviously wasn't supposed to get it.

Was it asking for opinions about you?

If not just respond and say 'Im not sure this was for me'

lottiegarbanzo · 06/03/2026 20:08

Yes but the most likely explanation is that there’s another ‘still’ in the organisation, who was supposed to receive it but your address was auto-suggested instead.

BusyDenimLion · 06/03/2026 20:09

Do you mean they were asking for opinions of current colleagues but you are no longer a current colleague?

tilypu · 06/03/2026 20:09

Definitely let her know. In a previous job I was always getting emails for someone with the same first name and similar surname. I would always let them know so they could get in touch with the right person.

It might be a similar situation here

stilloverthinking · 06/03/2026 22:32

BusyDenimLion · 06/03/2026 20:09

Do you mean they were asking for opinions of current colleagues but you are no longer a current colleague?

Asking for opinions on a piece of work they were doing, that had nothing to do with me, not my area...So I know I wasn't an intended recipient.

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KimberleyClark · 06/03/2026 22:39

stilloverthinking · 06/03/2026 22:32

Asking for opinions on a piece of work they were doing, that had nothing to do with me, not my area...So I know I wasn't an intended recipient.

Then of course let him know. Why wouldn’t you? As pp said there is probably someone else in your organisation with a similar name to you, or the same first name and it autocorrected.

IceOnTheLake · 06/03/2026 22:42

I do sometimes wonder why the smallest decisions in life end up on MN. Surely it's obvious that if an email is meant for someone else, you let the sender know it came to you in error.

CakeMindsThinkAlike · 06/03/2026 22:47

IceOnTheLake · 06/03/2026 22:42

I do sometimes wonder why the smallest decisions in life end up on MN. Surely it's obvious that if an email is meant for someone else, you let the sender know it came to you in error.

I know. Bizarre isn't it? I've received emails/texts not intended for me, and have just responded "Hi , I'm assuming you didn't mean to sent me this?" Or words to that effect. It honestly not a big deal OP.

OhBettyCalmDown · 06/03/2026 22:51

You’re not the first this has happened to and you won’t be the last. Just message them back saying I assume this wasn’t for me? Otherwise they may not know you’ve been included and the intended recipient hasn’t got it 🤷‍♀️

ChapmanFarm · 06/03/2026 22:53

If you want to be more polite (following don't think this was meant for me) you could add 'just letting you know so you don't think someone is ignoring you. Hope you are getting on well.'

ThatPearlkitty · 06/03/2026 22:54

stilloverthinking · 06/03/2026 20:04

It was sent to about five people, including me....I very obviously wasn't supposed to get it.

in that case play dumb ? work as a spy

BauhausOfEliott · 06/03/2026 22:55

stilloverthinking · 06/03/2026 22:32

Asking for opinions on a piece of work they were doing, that had nothing to do with me, not my area...So I know I wasn't an intended recipient.

Sorry, but… what exactly is the problem? Why wouldn’t you reply and say ‘Hi, I think you meant to send this to someone else as this isn’t my area of work’. What’s the dilemma?

JLou08 · 06/03/2026 23:16

Your username is very apt. I would have replied immediately without a second thought.

Bluedenimdoglover · 07/03/2026 20:22

Why are you worrying about this? Just reply that you think it was sent in error and leave it be. With all that's going on in the world at the moment, is it really worth the headspace?

FlapperFlamingo · 07/03/2026 20:24

Reply just to the person that sent it (not everyone) and let the original sender know. Probably the intended recipient has a name close to yours with a typo.

Tiswa · 07/03/2026 20:30

I have a common 70/80s name and a common starting letter surname so at one point when working there were 3 of us with very similar emails doing very similar jobs (2 of us identical jobs and one adjacent role) and we used to get emails meant for the other all the time

it doesn’t sound as if it is anything controversial so yes massively overthinking

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 07/03/2026 20:57

Really? This happens a lot. Just tell them. No drama. Why did this need a thread?

is there a weird drip feed or backstory coming?

SnowyPetals · 07/03/2026 21:09

Why is this even a decision? It's a boring work email sent to you in error. He's hardly inadvertently copied you in on a state secret or a massive fraud.

GranniesAgainstWarSociety · 07/03/2026 21:12

I’d forward it on to three more people like a chain letter. And then tell those three people that if they don’t forward it on to three more people, they’ll get 7 years bad luck.

Dribblepop · 07/03/2026 21:14

Yes, just email and ask if it was sent to you in error, so they can send it to the right person.

IPM · 07/03/2026 21:17

How is this even a question? 😳

Just reply and point out it wasn't mean for you.