To feel uncomfortable with this birthday present for my son?

[TheZanyPinkSquid]

Hi everyone,

We had a birthday party for my son’s 4th birthday and his friends from nursery.
I normally stick to a £5/£10 budget whenever he is invited to a birthday.
He’s got this classmate who he is good friends with, but I don’t really talk to his parents (besides hello and goodbye). His present to my son was a Yoto!

AIBU to feel uneasy about it? It’s very kind but I wonder if I would now be expected to give a present in a similar price range on the little boy’s birthday? Even if I’m not, I’d feel bad giving him something worth a tenner or less

Ds had a party last year. He got £20 off every guest! He was 11. I still stick a fiver in cards... Ds is a very popular dc.. That won't change because I'm not that flush!!

Bloody hell they're over a hundred quid aren't they?

What’s a yoto?

Maybe the child who gave it received two for Christmas and the parents just thought they'd regift it? Don't worry too much about it!

I bet it’s a regift. Someone got it for their kid and they weren’t interested! Otherwise it’s mad!

People don't give to receive generally. Id sent a thank you for the gift and then give what you normally would as I'm sure that's what the parent's would also want you to do.

Are you sure it’s genuine, or could it be a cheaper ‘fake’ product? Disclaimer: I’ve never heard of them or seen one, so might be talking nonsense!

I think it's fine. Its a bit much but 🤷🏻‍♀️

The parents might have had a spare one and its a regift or just are rich.

I just had my dds 4th birthday and one mum who is nervous about he only child and really wants my dd to be friends gave us 2 gifts worth about £60

I have definitely given slightly expensive gifts that are duplicates eg. £30 mark
If i am buying its £8-10

It's probably either a duplicate gift or an unwanted gift that they decided to pass on. I really wouldn't worry about it. As pp have said I don't give to receive and I'm sure they don't either. Just get a normal present.

I think with things like this you just have to do what you feel comfortable doing and let everyone else do what they feel comfortable doing.

Present giving/receiving becomes stressful when you move away from making your own decisions and start taking everyone else's choices into account.

You do you. They can do them.

I wouldn't worry. I'd assume it was a regift (especially this soon after Christmas) or they found a bargain. I doubt they spent that much on a birthday present for a friend and if they did, then that's their choice. It doesnt mean you have to.

I hope your son had a lovely birthday and party.

There was a famous person’s child at my son’s school. The mum threw a Christmas/birthday party for the class (siblings and parents invited too) and it was a show stopper. Not Kardashian level but the kids all got prizes in the games they played worth far more than any present that was given, there was a grotto with Santa and elves better than any upmarket department store, an ice cream station and more. I overheard a parent say ‘she’s set the bar high’, but of course the hostess was certainly not expecting us all to bankrupt ourselves throwing equally extravagant parties or give her son expensive gifts! She may be worth millions but she’s not ignorant of the fact that most everyone else there are just normal middle class folks. She wanted to throw a nice party for her only child. And she certainly did and it was wonderful. Not everything is transactional.

I would assume it was a re-wrap from Christmas. They just preferred to give something they had - which was sitting there not being used - than shell-out for something else. No brainer!

I used to love being able to re-wrap duplicates for my children’s friends. It was mainly Lego and board games. Saved me a fortune and the inconvenience of having to shop for something rubbish!

It’s a little machine for kids they put a story card in it and it reads them the story they can play games on it as well. They are expensive.