To campaign for the abolition of the phrase...

[Forthesteps]

"Where did you put my...?"

To be replaced at all times and in all places by: "Have you seen my...?"

Sort of lighthearted, sort of not.

I'll sign your petition.

I’ll sign.

I’ll also sign the petition which requires someone to actually look using their actual eyes before asking this question!

That too. And even move things to look behind or under them.

I'm 100% guilty of this so from that perspective and that of my DW you are not unreasonable😔hangs head in shame.

Baby steps, OP 😂

Genuinely curious as to what the thinking is, though. Why assume anyone else has put your personal stuff anywhere? Surely the first question is "Where did I put my..." Because it's, y'know, your...

Household stuff maybe. But wallet, keys? Beats me.

It's more house stuff ,I'm very persnickety where I put wallet ,keys etc.
I'm trying to get better at using my own eyeballs to look for stuff as it's me that's put it away in the first place.

I’ll sign as long as it includes banning the cursory glance around a room whilst stood still in the doorway before they ask.

My DH actually asked me if I had thrown away a pair of his shoes, because he couldn't find them!!!!

Fuck me...sign me up. I'm in the bath and literally was asked just that

Even worse my sister used to say “ Who has stolen my….?”

Endless opportunities for sarky responses there

I’ve never heard anyone say this unless the other person was the last to use that item.

E.g if you borrow someone’s charger they’ll say where have you put my charger.
But if you’ve not used it they’ll say have you seen my charger.

I would be really annoyed if someone asked me where I’d put something if I hadn’t touched it but no one has ever said this to me and I’d not say it to anyone else.

Or someone has moved said item.

Erm no you just haven't looked!!

Well it depends. Sometimes I know I’ve put my keys in a specific place. So if they’re not there, my question is “who moved my…?” Or “where did you put my…?” No point in me thinking “where did I put my…?” because I know where I put them!

I have a great response to this question:
”Where have you looked so far?” 😁
the answer is either “everywhere” in which case the item must have fallen off the face of the earth, oh well. Or “nowhere” in which go and look some places!

Can we ban both, please? Just any question which includes "my XYZ" - where is my..., have you seen my..., did you move/throw away/use my...

I literally started asking men on the first date if they can find their own socks.

Stop even replying.

Edited as replied to wrong post

Well, if you say so. IME it isn't always the case that the person missing personal items has in fact accurately recalled where he put them.Just saying.

May I add “Where have you hidden my…?” As if my life is so empty and devoid of tasks that I entertain myself by setting him challenges and playing an elaborate game of hide and seek with his possessions..

I can live with it if its a reasonable understanding that I have actually moved it, ie if I have borrowed something.

But my other half will ask me where things are as if it was my job to know everything. And that really winds me up.

Ah, so you’ve met my DH and DS? 😅
DH is a plopper. He’ll plop things anywhere, is terrible at putting things back where he found them, and I’ve even banned him for digging under the stairs because after he’s been in there it looks like there’s been a small explosion. He can never find his car keys/wallet because he’s plopped them.
DS is much tidier but suddenly becomes partially sighted when looking for anything. If he can’t find it I can guarantee it’s right under his nose.

Because of this I get asked all the time if I’ve seen things, and even when I have I always answer ‘no’.
Not my problem.

I will sign. Could we also include ' Do we need?
Example - I'm heading to the store,.do we need milk?
I don't know love,. you're standing by the fridge maybe open it and look..