I cry when I look at videos & pictures of Dc when young

[Stillputtingthefireon]

When Sm memories come up and so on, it’s like a different person/version of them, sometimes I don’t remember them properly and it makes me sad. I can remember picking them up
and how their little chubby arms and hands felt.

Aibu to miss that version of them so much

I actually can't handle the thought of the trainset being put away for the last time. Brb off to try and convince my husband we need another baby.....

I mean, it just feels like such a long time ago that I cant remember living it, if thst makes any sense?

Mum died when I was 17, sometimes I don't remember what she looked like. Keep holding those memories. Keep crying. In a few years they will join you in that shared memory

No I don't. I smile and enjoy it. You need to get a grip.

This thread has made me stop and think so thank you 😊 Lately I've been really stressed and shouting at silly stuff. I don't think I listen and give enough hugs to my dc. As people say "the days are long but the years are short"
Life with young dc can be incredibly stressful and frustrating but they are fleeting. Enjoy your precious memories OP.

🙄

I can’t look at childhood photos of my youngest - he’s in prison and the childhood photos just remind me of wasted potential. I hope one day I can look at them again.

That must be absolutely devastating, I’m so sorry

Thank you, he’s been there quite a while now so I’ve gone to terms with it, it’s only when I see the childhood photos that I have a wobble. I’m still hopeful things will turn around for him but he has to want it more than I do.

(sorry I feel like I’ve brought down the tone of the thread 😂) I suppose one thing to learn from my experience is if your kids are happy and thriving, be thankful for it ☺️

I miss baby DD and toddler DD so much, but I adore my funny, crazy 5 year old (5 and a half mummy! she would insist) and the relationship we have now, so I try to hold on to that and know that pretty soon these will be the days I miss too.

It's more intense that she's an only, and I wanted more, and I really felt like I'd become the person I always wanted to be during that really intense phase of motherhood (that's probably rose tinted, I know it was really really hard as well). I'm less sure of who I am and what I'm doing these days, she's in school and I'm working full time.

I try to use it as a reminder to appreciate what we have now, and to slow down and enjoy her instead of feeling on the treadmill of school run, work, housework, bath time, bedtime blah blah blah.

Oh thank God, someone exactly like me! I never played with baby dolls as a little girl so I wasn't surprised to find the baby and toddler years draining and 98% stultifyingly dull. I love my sleep, love to lose myself in a book, love doing arty stuff, love a tranquil and tidy home. None of that is compatible with toddlers.

I bloody rocked motherhood though as they reached school age and really enjoyed their teens.

Ironically both our DDs remember me as being a very fun, engaged Mum when they were little. I'm obviously a very good actress!

I definitely feel very emotional especially when seeing video footage of our children when they were younger. It’s their little voices that get me, especially when they’re calling us mama and dada. Seeing them with pets that are no longer here gets me every time as well. 😢

I feel exactly the same, Dd at school now, i’m back to work, feels v empty! We had all those years together just me and her in our little bubble, i’m very grateful for that, but miss it so much

It actually feels like grief, sometimes. Those babies/toddlers are gone forever.

The last few lines of Winnie the Pooh kills me. I can’t even google it to post on here 😭

My DC are pretty much adults now. I look back on the pre-school years with fondness but no desire to repeat. It's a lovely special time in life, but all - consuming. I have loved watching mine gaining independence, morals, life skills etc and growing into their own people, whilst at the same time getting back some time and space for me as a person.

I know exactly how you feel OP, mine are all early 20s and it’s like those little ones don’t exist anymore and I really miss them 😢
I’m always brought back to earth though, on threads like this, by the posters who say you are lucky your children got to grow up and of course that’s so very true.

To all the mums who have little ones now, treasure every single moment because it goes so so so fast.

What is it? 😬

Oh, it gets worse as they get older, believe me! 😢

Yes I'm going to have to Google now too😬🥴

I could’ve written this post. My adult kids talk about their ‘idyllic’ early childhood despite the fact that I was permanently irritated and bored shitless. I was a much better mother once they actually became a bit more independent and their individual personalities started to emerge.

Great 😞

Oh just read it and remembered it 😔

@Stillputtingthefireon
Can you post it please?