Are young women confused when liking someone?

[JamesHank]

I’m a college student from Greece and I’ve been thinking about something lately.

Do you think that when a young woman is genuinely into a guy, she’ll naturally make it easier for him to approach and move things forward? Like, clear signals, openness, less mixed messages?

I also can’t help but notice that a lot of men who constantly say “women don’t know what they want” might actually be using that as a coping mechanism. Sometimes it feels easier to generalize than to admit that maybe the interest just wasn’t mutual.

Curious to hear different perspectives on this.

Why on earth would you flirt outrageously with someone you're not interested in? That's perverse.

This nails it.

’Mixed messages’ = she’s not into you, move on.

Women are all different humans and not a homogenous mass so some women may be confused and others not. To treat us like we are all the same and our behaviour can be learnt and therefore manipulated is an error in judgement.

I've always thought that since men have to go to all the trouble of doing the asking (usually) that the least us women can do is make it obvious we like them. Then they're not so likely to have to put themselves out there just to be rejected. Trouble is, men are not known to be really good at picking up subtle hints.

I also can't flirt at all, so I'm a total hypocrite. I admire any woman who is confident and secure enough to do it because that's when it becomes very obvious (even to men) as it's so overt. I'd just make an embarrassment of myself if I even tried.

Lastly, I don't know if it's true for other women but it can take me weeks or months to develop feelings for someone so it's not so much I don't know what I want as that it just takes a lot longer to form that attraction than it probably does for men. I never really agreed with the "friend-zoning" thing as I think there could be potential there sometimes. Except when the guy is being a "nice guy" because we see through that.

What do you think 'flirt outrageously' means? Please explain further why you think it's perverse. Also, that's your opinion. Not fact

Further, are you trying to slut shame me? Nice try! 😂