Relationships

[tornadoes8]

I went on a second date last Friday with a man. We’re both in early fifties with our adult kids at home and divorced. He was kind, generous and ever the gentleman. We talked and laughed for the evening while eating and having drinks . He insisted on paying for everything and afterwards sent the loveliest messages of thanks and interest.
we spoke about our expectations for the future that night . I do not ever want to remarry and very possibly not cohabit again. I would
like a loyal and trustworthy man to have in my Life however as an addition but not to blend into my family etc. He also feels like this and doesn’t want to blend.
when he spoke he said he was enjoying getting to know me
and enjoying the second date and happy to be going with the flow and to see how things go with us, that he’d like us to keep
seeing each other He seemed genuine and didnt hesitate to express his thoughts but was quite honest. It was only our second date and he seemed quite interested but casual in his responses I thought.
was I overthinking and fast forwarding or was he being in the present moment or lying to keep me happy ?

what was going on here ?

There's a great board on Mumsnet @tornadoes8 with exactly the same title a your post.

It's called Relationships:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships

You will get tons of responses on here I'm sure, because most people think Mumsnet is called "AIBU' or something,

But I'm just suggesting in case you want more nuanced or focused replies some time.

Thanks . How do I move this post over to the correct board please?

Anyone please

You’re overthinking. At this stage, the brutal truth is he could say anything and you wouldn’t know if it were true/honest or not. Accept that, and enjoy getting to know this person more, and clarity will come. Beware chameleons who change their outer colours to fit in with their surroundings/new person, take it slow. My ex came across as leftwing because I am, he mirrored back very well indeed, and I had no idea until I saw a photo of him shaking hands with Farage.
Living Apart Togetger is brilliant btw, my partner and I have for years and are very happy.

Literally nobody can tell you whether he was honest or lying. You need alot more than 2 dates to know if this will work out and if the arrangement (partners without living together) is what will work for you both long term.

The whole point of dating is to enjoy getting to know the other person. Stop overthinkjng and just enjoy the journey.

You're overthinking. Let it play out. If you're uncomfortable just end it. Simples!!

What do you mean by 'quite casual in his responses'? I mean, it was your second date -- of course it was casual!